This topic delineates the Truth of a behavior or addiction ignited from a Root Cause.
If anyone has suffered from abandonment this may help you but I am going to delineate my personal findings here;
The way I break it down; Behaviors, Affects, Influences, Root, Situation
BEHAVIOR: addiction (sex, excersise, food, drugs) My choice - Tabacco
EFFECTS: Anxiety, Anxious & Anguish, Perception
INFLUENCES: Trust
ROOT: Abandonment
SITUATION: Mother left at birth and inccesantly failed to act in her words, Father gone at 15- for privacy I am leaving out details.
Also; remmember that there is a need unmet in all cicumstances and that behaviors are more influencined by the way you percieve others in concern to an unhealed root cause in life. The addictions are more associated with the "void" need that was unmet. Often its associated with a bondage or intimacy.
So in this case; sadly my initamcy was Tabacoo but unsadly it did not infringe anothers path in life.
My behavioral responses influenced by my perceptions were jumping to conclusions and percieving situations as "its probably not anything permanent"
Another factor; Perceptions then increased in influence by the addiction becuase in many circumstances; I as an only smoker would cause me to be alone in the addiction, thus feeling alone around people at times.
Perception is influenced by the effects from the situation, then the emotional need cause by abandonment, Trust, lack of trust ignited those feelings and those feelings ignite perceptions and the perception feeds the feeelings, thus feeding the root negetive energy (emotional pain) Abandonment. Thus the feelings and perceptions cycled the issue worse and the coping was more in urgency and the age of maturity also impacted the social and instant gratification influences; Tabacco.
So it took the Situation that manifested to Create Abandonment, which then created Trust issues, then feelings of anxiety, anxiousness, and anguish influenced the perceptions, perceptions fed the feelings, and the behavior or substance that tempered it all was Tabacco.
Permanance and Trust are challenged from Abandonment issues.
Anguish is a result after the dissapointement takes place when the abandonment actions occur. Anxious when waiting for the call, response, person to arrive, or even post the root effect in childhood; meeting new people.
At young; innocence and candor still resonate. So the anxiousness induces more manifestation along with candor to create more abandonimg situations especially when one parent dates many men or woman. You recieve youthfull innocent attachemnts and they keep coming and going. As one progresses anxiety about the situation and outcome (perceptions) becomes influenced by the root cause and the consistancy of the abandoning situations that create consistant feelings. So anxiety about the situation of bonding with anything holds a perception that is fed by the feelings (anxious, anxiety, anguish) associated with the Trust that was ignited by the Abandonment. The Abandonment is connected to the situation; loss of Mom and Dad; thus effecting a specific demeanor of potential relationships. Since it was both male and female, alomost all; except children. These issues (emotions and feelings) have been resonating and fed since childhood; to the point where they are implanted, thus these negative habits of thoughts from the feelings and the thoughts provoking the feeling influencing perceptions that feed the feelings, Trust and abandonment are influencing the instant habit of a coping strategy. The youth in the situation is inclined to yeild or seek gateway measures; Tobacco in this case.
Since these emotions, feelings and thoughts have been implanted; now a natural habit and response; whatever coping strategy we associate it with also becomes implanted. First it is a brainwashing that ignites from the Roots and it is then a natural association to (behave, cope) in a particular manner inwhich that activity was inccesantly implanting the responses from the root causes. So now we associate the coping strategy with the way to temper the feelings from the Root cause. Another brain washing.
Cognitive bahavior can be applied once the Root cause has been delineated all the way in stages to the addiction or behavior. Positive thoughts and affirmations must be programmed into the brain and practiced consistantly. Implimenting new corrective actions and implimenting factors that caused any emotional need should also be implimented. Alot of digging and instinctive responses to self examination questions here!
Recognize the addiction, behavior, habit.
Ask yourself what are your feelings? What is the first emotion you connect to those feelings?
What bonding or relationship issue do you have?
Ex. Are you controlling? Well what causes control? (Jealousy) Why jealous?
Rx. Are you accusational? What causes accusations? Trust?
Whats the root of the above Questions? Abandonment, sexual abuse, Rejection?
Delineate the situation once you have put a Title on it Ex. Rejection; then delineate the situation of rejection.......
This has helped me......Now we clearly deserve trust, acceptance and so on.....
What else here in the situation of abandonment?
What was the demeanor of the situation; child loss of parents. what deep emotional need caused anguish, Feeling Unloved!
I Forgive; I honer still; thy Father and thy Mother
I do not need parents to manifest Love; I need to resonate love to manifest it!
My sacrifices are my biggest honors. Others are enduring my pain. I am Loved or else I would not have a place on the Universe! Self Love here I come Baby! Faith you are always with me, I feel loving energy from you.
No nurture & little recognition- I give it to myself and enage my self where it can be attained. I also give it to others with a passion.
Trust: I trust in me and I am Loyal to others with a passion; I put confidence and self worth unto myself so I can trust in others.
Divine Love
Holly
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