Inquest Abysmal Truth Within The Higher Self

How many have had repeat situations?

Every "Situation" in life is a learning experience and lesson. Life experience applies to the same theory of a school exam; YOU must take it until YOU pass it on your own without counsel and outside help. You then seek the "truths". YOU engross yourself with the knowledge that applies to the "situation" (test); YOU discern and formulate your best affluent strategy. YOU must grasp the truth and YOU must move fowards with the Truth; it cannot be denied.

Every situation in your life  requires you to seek deep thruth is an opportunity to evolve and attain self Ascension.

Self Ascension: deliberates the conscious decision to bring one’s life experience into alignment with higer self (spirit self) soul consciousness. A consistant active approach superseding the ego and unordered thoughts that prevents one from living in the now and trusting in their inner awareness.

The more heartache and trial you experience the more you have to seek the truth into yourself and then become an aware being with growth.To raise your frequency higher; go within and ask yourself. Seek deeper truth to elevate your vibration. Initiate your next steps with the inherited truths influencing you judgments. If you do not let yourself see the truth and carry it out, you will keep acquiring the same situations as "lessons" until you do. Another person and situation will ascend your way as another test and opportunity for you to pass it and release it entirely out of your life. The test will keep coming until YOU handle it independently and trust in yourself and become Enlightened.

Once you exhibit your higher vibration you can attract the same frequency and you will think differently about requesting info and answers from ones who do not hold the truth in your situations becuase no one holds the truth to you or your partners in the given situation. Your partner who may or may not have self truth and ascension; so no one but you can judge it. Even if the other parties lack self truth; you can at least go within to seek yours concerning the situation and make the judgement call. No one else can but YOU.

We can and should show gratitude for the many situations that evolve in our life becuase its from those situations that we are presented with ambition to inquest our resonate self. We then attain what self understanding is; Enlightenment. We then can raise our vibration and predict outcomes and attract higher frequency with higher self awareness and Ascension.

Investigating the Truth; The Cause

This topic delineates the Truth of a behavior or addiction ignited from a Root Cause.


If anyone has suffered from abandonment this may help you but I am going to delineate my personal findings here;


The way I break it down; Behaviors, Affects, Influences, Root, Situation


BEHAVIOR: addiction (sex, excersise, food, drugs) My choice - Tabacco


EFFECTS: Anxiety, Anxious & Anguish, Perception


INFLUENCES: Trust


ROOT: Abandonment


SITUATION: Mother left at birth and inccesantly failed to act in her words, Father gone at 15- for privacy I am leaving out details.

Also; remmember that there is a need unmet in all cicumstances and that behaviors are more influencined by the way you percieve others in concern to an unhealed root cause in life. The addictions are more associated with the "void" need that was unmet. Often its associated with a bondage or intimacy.


So in this case; sadly my initamcy was Tabacoo but unsadly it did not infringe anothers path in life.

My behavioral responses influenced by my perceptions were jumping to conclusions and percieving situations as "its probably not anything permanent"

Another factor; Perceptions then increased in influence by the addiction becuase in many circumstances; I as an only smoker would cause me to be alone in the addiction, thus feeling alone around people at times.

Perception is influenced by the effects from the situation, then the emotional need cause by abandonment, Trust, lack of trust ignited those feelings and those feelings ignite perceptions and the perception feeds the feeelings, thus feeding the root negetive energy (emotional pain) Abandonment. Thus the feelings and perceptions cycled the issue worse and the coping was more in urgency and the age of maturity also impacted the social and instant gratification influences; Tabacco.


So it took the Situation that manifested to Create Abandonment, which then created Trust issues, then feelings of anxiety, anxiousness, and anguish influenced the perceptions, perceptions fed the feelings, and the behavior or substance that tempered it all was Tabacco.


Permanance and Trust are challenged from Abandonment issues.
Anguish is a result after the dissapointement takes place when the abandonment actions occur. Anxious when waiting for the call, response, person to arrive, or even post the root effect in childhood; meeting new people.

At young; innocence and candor still resonate. So the anxiousness induces more manifestation along with candor to create more abandonimg situations especially when one parent dates many men or woman. You recieve youthfull innocent attachemnts and they keep coming and going. As one progresses anxiety about the situation and outcome (perceptions) becomes influenced by the root cause and the consistancy of the abandoning situations that create consistant feelings. So anxiety about the situation of bonding with anything holds a perception that is fed by the feelings (anxious, anxiety, anguish) associated with the Trust that was ignited by the Abandonment. The Abandonment is connected to the situation; loss of Mom and Dad; thus effecting a specific demeanor of potential relationships. Since it was both male and female, alomost all; except children. These issues (emotions and feelings) have been resonating and fed since childhood; to the point where they are implanted, thus these negative habits of thoughts from the feelings and the thoughts provoking the feeling influencing perceptions that feed the feelings, Trust and abandonment are influencing the instant habit of a coping strategy. The youth in the situation is inclined to yeild or seek gateway measures; Tobacco in this case.

Since these emotions, feelings and thoughts have been implanted; now a natural habit and response; whatever coping strategy we associate it with also becomes implanted. First it is a brainwashing that ignites from the Roots and it is then a natural association to (behave, cope) in a particular manner inwhich that activity was inccesantly implanting the responses from the root causes. So now we associate the coping strategy with the way to temper the feelings from the Root cause. Another brain washing.

Cognitive bahavior can be applied once the Root cause has been delineated all the way in stages to the addiction or behavior. Positive thoughts and affirmations must be programmed into the brain and practiced consistantly. Implimenting new corrective actions and implimenting factors that caused any emotional need should also be implimented. Alot of digging and instinctive responses to self examination questions here!


Recognize the addiction, behavior, habit.


Ask yourself what are your feelings? What is the first emotion you connect to those feelings?


What bonding or relationship issue do you have?


Ex. Are you controlling? Well what causes control? (Jealousy) Why jealous?


Rx. Are you accusational? What causes accusations? Trust?


Whats the root of the above Questions? Abandonment, sexual abuse, Rejection?


Delineate the situation once you have put a Title on it Ex. Rejection; then delineate the situation of rejection.......




This has helped me......Now we clearly deserve trust, acceptance and so on.....


What else here in the situation of abandonment?


What was the demeanor of the situation; child loss of parents. what deep emotional need caused anguish, Feeling Unloved!

I Forgive; I honer still; thy Father and thy Mother


I do not need parents to manifest Love; I need to resonate love to manifest it!


My sacrifices are my biggest honors. Others are enduring my pain. I am Loved or else I would not have a place on the Universe! Self Love here I come Baby! Faith you are always with me, I feel loving energy from you.

No nurture & little recognition- I give it to myself and enage my self where it can be attained. I also give it to others with a passion.

Trust: I trust in me and I am Loyal to others with a passion; I put confidence and self worth unto myself so I can trust in others.






Divine Love
Holly

Justice Intention 2

"Worth Yourself; You Worth the Other; The other Worths themself and You Equally; "Balanced" thus Worthy of a Relationship"

During my counsel sessions including applications for myself; I have concluded that intentions are gravely influenced by levels of self abandonment. Self abandonment elevates insecurity. We all know insecurity influences emotional controls. This is a large factor that initiates the turmoil and obstructs the ability to endure a harmonious relationship.

Security is within the self but when unacheived; many inquest security in relationships and band themselves.

Many may recall the instant gratifications and the black and white changes later on in the relationship; especially post a marraige or lease agreement.

Your causes earn your results; Justice

In respects to the above statement; carried energy (creating action; cause) Ex. Improvised sex appeals or money (controls) you will attract the same energy you carried mentally with intetnion to direct your energy.

It takes time and thought to present one self with affixed sex appeals or easy money hand outs. It takes low self worth and ignorance to disregard your body and foundation. (time at job, quality of work, education, finances etc.) Now especially concerning the opposite sex, they are rightfully in the knowing of the opposite sex's tendancies. Ignorance will not recognize that their intention assists in manifesting their results!

Do you want to elevate your consciousness to your highest self?

Do you want to elevate your rank as a Fool?

Females have a Regal known ability intuition. Utilize it and do it with an honorable intention! Why is it that so many of you practice extreme measures of spending, time, competition, catty acts, and energy to prize your image? Redeem yourself from your created turmoils and improvised pity and hardship to gain a man's sympathy as well, that makes you a target for deceit!

Men; concerning negative energies that are applied; discerning ways to utilize money (physical: material energies). Mental manipulation is pretty useless  because females premeditate, formulate reasons with sharper intuition. Any intelligent woman with self worth and morals knows she shall not need or desire your money and be treated like a trophy. A worthy woman will not abuse younger males who have little direction and independence. No Mom and boy relationship demeanors.

Have you ever felt as you were attracting the same patterns? Its not the partner; its the situation that creates the security that you hold on to becuase you clearly did not hold self security; it was security you loved. Both deserve to inquest self inner peace and security by practicing disciplines and self love to break this vicious cycle that they are manifesting. Emotion recognition can also ignite healing to prevent misunderstood urges of behavior.The energies you resonate are the energies you manifest. Intention flows and mind directs the energies.

[Mind  (Intention)  Cause  (Action)]  = Effects  (Results) "Balance"

2+2=4    [2 (Intention) + 2 (Cause) = 4 (Results)

"Cause Plus intention" IE; reasons are connected along with truth in ones circumstances in life may be non exposed.

2 and 2 equal the results; lets look at demeanors in the equation;

manipulate(Intention)+ Texting Sexy photographs with much added sex appeal and with little rapport(Action)=MANIPULATING(Results) [with words(male demeanor)to get sex appeal related activity with no respect and love. The male also then recognized the obvious weakness due to her physicall appearance proving desire for sense of security and attetnion; he then proceeded to feed of of that weakness.

No committment was presented for the "resultee" to get the "cause" sex appeal and instant approval; Why would there be long term committment after the fact of the proceeding acts?

Intention can be genuine; we can apply positive intention and really focus our intention and direct divine energy flow to areas deserving of our attention.

Self love; “ I embrace divine inner peace and harmony” I embrace the truth of my divine self and embrace the truth of all my relationships”

The intention is the seed that is sown. The seed will grow and blossom; did you plant Poison Ivy or Divine Flowers?  

Hope this sheds light

Divine Light is within you 

Love Holly

I would like to thank my good friend Gillian along with Christ for helping me to discover the many ways we must apply good intentions and trust in all of our activities. I thank her for allowing me to write on her website about ethic and conduct.

Security in a Relationship

How many have incessantly been in contemplation about Security. The irony in that is we will not understand security until we have went within and discovered it for our selves internally. It does not matter who or what is in your surrounding; with self security you will assimilate and prosper in all circumstances. The solid foundation of evolving youself as a balnced entity will enable you to be unyeilding to harmfull and manipulative influences. Self love will initiate consistancy in your behaviors, aspirations and overall growth and development which enriches you mentally, physically and spiritually.

Please understand that if you inquest security, you are actually abandoning it; thus you attract abandonment and recieve little security in life and may feel forsaken. The security lays within you.

With only yourself, human abilities and only human aparatus; you go out and look for diamonds and gold. What is the chance of finding it? That is the same chance you have if you look for love. Clearly you do not have security if your out looking for diamonds and gold.

One other factor is the sense of understanding and disciplining your emotions. Healing from your past. Often many who do not hold a security allow their emotions to run their behaviors.


Self security will determine your level of self worth. Your self  worth will affect your intentions, respect, considerations, honesty, behaviors, selflessness and actions you hold upon others. At times involving intention; I know many have experienced instant gratifications or spouse behaviors that then change in circumstances where their are no controls, such as financial needs, a dwelling, children and so on. This occurs when an individual has not attained a self security and improvisions on behaviors are constructed to hold on to their spouse. (security)

If we do not understand ourselves how do we know what we want for ourselves and especially a relationship?

I know many will inadvertantly compromise for the need of security.

Now here is a fun example: This delineates importance of knowing self physically, mentally and spiritually.

I thought I was a Bone in Ribeye. I never have endured a taste of myself without needs to make another happy; so  before I became a solid entity my business was influenced by others. I run a bar and grill.

Now Corn on the cobb became a good side dish for the bone in ribeye, along with salt potatoes and a pale ale for a beverage. (hey; even in culinary there is relationships)

The bone in ribeye was seared and brushed with a smoked hickory marinade.

We do learn about ourselves as well concerning socializing but we do obstruct self enlightenemnt and clear direction without solid self introspection time attaining a security for ourselves.

Long story short. (the sides are attachemnts that come with relationships and even the path you are on concerning career, dwelling area, college etc..) A child I would not consider an attachemnt becuase it is always a beautifull grace and part of who you are.

Bone in Ribeye is starting to evolve and is realizing that they really are a Prime rib. Garlic Smashed Potatoes and sauted green beans would be divine with a prime rib. An earthy Merlot would be nice. Prime Rib also realizes soon that she like herself braised and not seared.

Now Prime Rib has to break down and rebuild; now on a detained pace due to the time and the attachemnts she aqcuired when she thought that Bone in Ribeye, along with all that came with it was ideal. Focusing becomes an issue becuase she had duties; the Bar and Grill situation it blocked her ability to dig within and spend time understanding herself as a solid entity with personal introspection. At times when we adhere many obligations we become inhibited from our ability to see our true divine path.

Impaired  security institutes controls. Controls cause us to focus much energy holding on to what we believe or want to be a security; thus we lose focus of our true core being and what will balance in harmony with permanance.

You get the point.

I do want to discuss the affects of insecurity then pursuing a realtionship. There are signs that will determine if one exalts self security. Controls are one factor that evolve from jealousy, that evolves from insecurity.

Some Other factors; blackmail, possessiveness, erradic emotions and behaviors, accusations, communication barrriers, put downs physically, spiritually or emotionally, command and obey, restrictions.


Especially in an environment where you feel insulted, unaccepted, restricted or enforced in any way; do you feel more inclined to opt out or to bend a rule to recieve that freedom or space especially since it has been infractured it may seem as a relief or get-away. It becomes more of an urge maybe?

Do you think that controls can actually manifest abandonment or cheating?


Again the self worth and security is a key factor in determinig permanance. You must practice permanant self love and security first. Your sense of worth will affect your long term sense of worthyness to your spouse.

Sense of worthyness can also cause one to leave; after one has held negative intentions that will resonate guilt and guilt will affect their sense of worthyness. That will then cause urgency and one may desire to leave becuase they feel unworthy based of their intentions and self worth going into the relationship. They may also lack self understanding, self personal power and independence. They may feel confused and ready to get clarity and security on their own for once.

How much you worth and value yourself will impact you relationship along with the entirety of your self security.

Other elements to manifest secure relationships:

People are constantly evolving and changing to some degree, you must be comfortable with youself enought to be attuned with another and their growth and development. Be attuned with yours first on your own and that will create and honor, understanding and respect towards your spouses evolution.

Time in Union and  Divine Communication. Always refining yourself becuase you instilled that practice first on your own will strengthen your relationship security.

Sharing a cause, passsion and faith together.

I hope the concise thread has given you enlightenement.

Love
Holly

I would like to along with God thank my inner light practitioner Beth Lynch for positively influencing my emotional healing and internal energy.

The Often Judged Eating Disorders

First of all if you are one who has had to live alone for quite some years; I get you.Thats when we do not want to hurt others and want to get ourselves secure first and understand oursleves along with creating a balance and inner harmony. So we often endure pain to the bone alone to heal and understand it. If you are one to live with another but not feel accepted; I get you as well. Nothing worse than being around one that makes you feel lower in frequency with selfish demands on their behalf  becuase they internally are really unhappy with themselves or need you for sense of control; but it blocks your personal space for self understanding and evolvment. Again do not take anothers objectivity concerning your actions as an attack. Often many go unaware. In social arrangemnts we must practice self honesty; if  we cannot be honest to self; can we argue another then questioning us?

Number One; we are complexed beings and an emotional issue only gets more complex as it goes unrecognized. The solutions are quite to the point but as we evolve in a behavior that erradicates out mental and physical health; the more complex the issue becomes due to attachemnts we create concerning trumoiled areas in life that also then get impacted by the root causes unaddressed.

Case Study;

First influence of an eating disorder was from the many woman that the male parent dated. I will say its woman and some men of all ages that endure eating discorders in all forms to; too big, to muscular, thin etc. I cannot say I have experienced anorexia but I have dipped into the truth about bulimia for a few consecutive months in my life.

Issue; once a day at night, to give  a high then a low to where a black could influence sleep when being alone in  mid teen years away from any family. The lack of elctro and potassium levals was too much for my body to endure long hours 7 days a week. This could not continue; needs to attain grounding alone with no support would be infringed upon if continued any longer than the few months  enduring the behavior. Clealry alone (physically) and feeling no love and support which created anguish, thus lack of sleep.

This closure led to a begining of a smoking addiction; "the abysmal issue was instilled and resonate self needed to ascend to actualize the pain and the need emotionally.

Faith and more group identification; college and faith groups. More time hanging out at MCC and community. Becoming conscious of  thinking patterns that evoked urges of behavior. Attuning self with affirmations to bring in the energy  not being recieved. Attuning self to open up to receiving by cleansing blockages and negative energies. "Tai Chi and healing meditations"

Again we all have reasons and causes on why we engage in these behaviors. The cause and triggers must be known and then understood. When we have a negative emotion; we clearly have a need that is not addressed. Thus we add a behavior but with an instant gratification and one we think we often can control becuase we feel no control on the emotions; we have not dealt with the emotion to order them.

The sad thing is; often as I have given counsel of these issues; people desire and like the control but they are being controled and its not the behavior directly, its the deep emotions behind it that triggers the behavior. It was an emotional response to influence a feeling thus an action to void the unwanted emotion and feeling attached to it.

It is also the sense of worth in many demeanors people experience that cause them to be conscious about eating and weight; body image to evoke these practices.

Wrestling, modeling, female false images, media etc.

There is absolutly no control becuase its an uncontrolled urge to repeat the behavior of control. Conscious can control influenced by the subconscious which is often passive to many; but the subconscious influences our conscious actions.

So one of the answers is to address what need was not met to cause the emotion.

Sense of acceptance (perfectionist, people pleasers) is another core issue. Compasrisons upon others and idealistic views of the Idol male and female image that is often not realistic.

Lack of acceptance can also occur by many rejections and abandonment issues. This can evolve from childhood and if the emotion is not understood and orderd it will continue to manifest the same negative results as the child gets older.

For example; I feel lonley. Well an eating disorder will only isolate you; so it creates more lonliness; thus more destructive behavior. You then depend on it and seek it as a solution to your lonliness.

The healthy way to assess lonliness is to ask yourself why you feel lonley and if you are percieving situations accuratly.

Remember: you may often percieve situations as you are left out or still feel alone becuase you are alone in your addiction, your addiction is not being supported in many environments of socializing. You may subconsciously be looking to connect with ones and be open about your addiction or behaviors.

Thus; we now know how its a circle; perception is off by the addiction or behavior, we feel alone in our addiction, we feel rejected or unattached, we then give this energy unto others, we then push others away, we then feel more lack of acceptance and rejection, we then feel deeper lonliness, we then run to the void and are alone in it and so on......................

If you are in fact alone; your not becuase many are in the same boat. Many live alone and are away from family or widowed. Many are enduring addictions of all kinds. So now we know we are not alone in the "boat". Others are enduring it.

If you are alive there is no possible way you do not have a place on this earth. Its not possible. If anything you can be one to inspire and support others who have experienced your pain. You can initiate support groups and engage in other support groups and meet like minded people with compassion.

Reaching out for help and Reaching out to others.

We also have to stay true to ourself; we at times cannot cookie cutter mold our image without cutting into healthy behavior with negative patterns of activity. Acceptance of yourself is the first step. If we continue to run from ourself (abandon) to chase what we think or what we percieve the ideal is to be based of uncontrolled emotions; we are going to beat ourselves around the bush in repeat negative cycles.

The best thing to do if it has resulted into a conscious image issue is to be rational and realistic.

I once did this: No TV or Mirror for one week! Really. I actually felt more inclined to socialize and get out becuase I was not dwelling on my appearance as it was in truth. No make up, no nothing in alteration becuase I am Holly Marie Colino. I am. I have to be me or I am rejecting myself!

Now its been years since I have worn any makeup. I used to be a mascara "wearer". No hair dye ever but I did make efforts concerning hair curly or really strait etc. Now I make efforts to heal and nurture my hair in its natural form. I take long bubble baths, lufah sponge, pomus stone, shave, soak, rinse, body gel, facial cleanser, conditioner, shampoo, filing, lotioning, shae butter, tweezing...yes lots of nurture.

Oh and yes of course I bring my bundles of kissies and huggies: my ooshie and orni babies. A puppy and tiger baby.

Honestly Just let it go, be free, be you, really it works!

Here is this one for example:

Ok, lets say you are insecure about your weight.

I actually was leaner looking with 130 pounds verse my current weight at 122! I lost alot of muscle mass from sitting in an office all day making sales. No resistance training. So do not go by a scale of any demeanor even a magazine image. I just turned muscle into fat by sitting in a ATT chair with no resistance training. lol

I modeld for Tampax at the Sharidan 4 points hotel (promo model).

In a fasion shoot:

Computer imaged (reduce thighs, hips increase bust etc.)

Airbrushing that can literally turn a tattoo into clear looking skin! WOW

Jelly boobies put into bras on thin girls with no breasts but do you know that the Victorias Secrete model has jellies in her bra and the bra has jelly in it? Do not forget.

False eyelashes, hair extensions, lip plumper, lighting.....

Typical poses all include: stick out butt, suck in tummy, stick out chest add a pair of heals..viola an image! Could you really stand and walk around like that all day?

Seriously even at Brockport Local Gym; I serviced a female fitness trainer ice and pillows at the Marriot becuase she had surgery in Rochester on her breasts and nose.

Key elelments in modeling: nose job , botox, and breast lifts and implants. Digital body construction. (thin waist, thigh etc)

So lets go back to the example. You are 140 and want to loose weight.

This is why its better to not be so meticulous with checking yourself all the time and being very controlling about your body weight influences.

you are 5 4 and want fit into a size 2.

If you set an ideal image and check within a day or two, maybe a week and see that your not there; what do you think this will cause?

Its when we set ourself up to fail (goal setting) we often give up and repeat old patterns. Set realistic and rational goals.

If you want to change; your intentions should be for good reasons.

Purposfull reasons. That is your motivation!

If you have experienced an eating disorder; then claiming your power over the disorder is a great motivation. Claiming your personal power!

Meditation, relaxing breathing excersises or art therapys should also be applied.

Do not put yourself in a spot where you are programing thoughts to see results right away. Instant gratifications are also instant uncontrolled behaviors.

you know what your reactions may be so do not set yourself up.

In this case "Flarity" is 5' 4 and wants to fit into a size 2.

Thats better than counting pounds becuse she can greatly reduce her waist size with just 5 pounds and increase muscle mass concerning her overall weight composition, transitioning fat to muscle so loosing more fat than she realizes becuase weight on the scale does not determine your body composition.

Flarity should focus a healthy regime and weigh herself after a month at the earliest. 

She should repeat the cycle of healthy mind, eating and excersise until she has consistantly created her regime as a healthy pattern consisitantly. (2 months) Then give herself a mental, physical and spiritual assessment.

As Flarity has not yet gotten the size 2 jeans to try; she realizes that she actually likes her body after the two months of working out. She is not even concerned with "numbers"

Does she fit in the size 2, well she doesnt care anymore so does it matter? But yeah she is smokin and all jeans sizes are different, so she just buys for what fits her body and disregards the numbers.


Much of it really is the reflection that comes from our perception of ourselves that is provoked by our thinking patterns and influences socialy and from our past.

Perfect is only a perception and an illusion of what is to be perfect in our heads based of our ideals and how we have attained them.Balance is key. If you put energy into only one thing aiming for perfection, other areas fall behind. We can aim for excellence in all we do but mistakes are part of learning and astute experience. Physical perfection should no where be compared to any image in the media either.

How we feel and our overall hapiness of our current situation will also reflect our perceptions.

Some Mood boosters: social identification, team, challenge, education, jouranling, art, excersise, sports, Tai Chi, meditation, Faith...................................................

Hope this brief overview helps:)

Love

holly

Respect and Trust in Relationships

The truth and facts in reality along with awareness to construct preventative actions and divine self loving support will influence divine intention, trust, and preparedness for the future.



This thread relates to a heart mate partner; all relationships hold different demeanor's. Family for one is quite dynamical and multifactorial with many partners involved; this takes much complex and cooperative counsel...with structures.....and rules


With acceptance to a child in need, at times we end up alone even with family being a common denominator; this is your life. Why allow ones ill will to help self abuse and take advantage of you and your efforts to solidify your core of being? Support and being positive is what we can do but not abandoning self. At times we have to let go of certain relationships because if we involve ourself in them we may get pulled down; only so much support, then it's their will and self honesty.

Self Respect earns Respect;

I am writing this from my heart and empathy. It is so important to respect the worth of your spouse and their privacy. (If they have no self respect, do not get involved on that level) I have watched, observed and mediated many areas of distrust and turmoil with gossip upon a partners spouse. I have in my experience viewed such activity as logging a spouses activity and discussing it in public forums and other chat groups. I have often been approached to discuss actions of an others spouse. I have been a mediator in their turmoil out into the open and public. I have viewed the many validation techniques to play an image unto others to validate what one wants their relationship to be but is not in truth. That is why there is a need to create validations.



"Walk in with good intentions and the results may be blessed"



If for example; you speak to a friend(who may be short terms as they come and go) associate, public forum etc about your spouse without their consent and knowing of the issues and ask people to advice you about your spouse and release their personal business to predict outcomes.



Should they trust you? Are you deserving of their trust? Have you put faith and trust into yourself and spouse?

Ask yourself; If you cannot make your own Judgements about your relationship; are you really ready for one?

Have you really evolved to understand yourself?



I have viewed many chat forums and observed on going activity of spouse privacy being released all over the Internet and partners allowing strangers to judge their relationships without a testimony or respect to the spouse and their lack of knowing of the activity.



Both sides shall be present and able to give a full testimony on their issues as a union. Then a fair and logical Judgment can be made on both sides. Discernment concerning truthfulness is far more accurate in person; with both individuals present. Honesty and Confession and are the key measures to a resolution. Both came into the relationship with intentions and both made the choice.



In a union anything related to the union shall be done as a union.



Here is a few questions I gave a woman who held an 8 month post about her husband called: Cheating Husband Logger. She had complaints and here is how I handled her request of information to act upon;



"Joe" Are you settling? If no romance is there along with no trust; why are you in it still? Because you said you have not talked to your spouse; you are not clear about your accusations; that's why you are here. You now as described by your actions are creating anxiety, distrust, lack of confidence and faith in yourself and spouse. You are on the path to manifesting an ending.



"Joe" Do you think that after this past 8 months of flipping tarot cards and getting a strangers advice with no spouse approval has helped you?



Why dwell? Why dwell on anything instead of enduring the divine present and it's opportunities? Why set or evolve expectations? What happened to Integrity? Patience and Persevering in Love is very important. (Trust in the Flow) If we "demand" the answers or outcomes (controls) up front; what integrity do we have? That shows need, control, lack of faith and trust, lack of confidence in self and the spouse and selfishness. Those qualities manifest negative energy; pressure, anguish, distrust, apathy, tense; thus now actions; jumping to conclusions, blackmail, controlling, communication barriers and so on.



Others own their will and their will WILL on their own time and readiness. That is why we shall be enduring self love and inner peace first before we union with a partner. This will prevent possessiveness which can create many areas of turmoil I discussed already.



Now as I mention possessive and control; it reminds me of lust, obsession, and need. That is not love but do individuals who exalt these actions practice self love, balance and inner peace?




What you carry inside yourself often remains passive; so the energy you resonate may not be seen by the potential spouse but the weakness will attach to yours and it will manifest to turmoils. Heal and ground Self first so you can step into a relationship with a positive resonating energy and attract what you resonate; love inside as a solid being.



Exposure; telling all the truth and nothing but; not telling all in concern to information that does affect and influence a spouse is untruthfulness. Exposure of current self in truth and current life circumstances.



Exposure concerning romance, intimacy, emotions, feelings and so on shall be earned, respected, treasured and they should be experienced with mature levels of time and commitment first showing Faith, loyalty and Trust.



Going back to my post about Intention;



Did you plant Poison Ivy or Roses? What did you plan for your relationship to grow into?



Challenges do come with attending to a harvest.



Instant gratifications come and go as quick as they came in.



Intentions can be analytically broken down farther to reasons that attach to self and the situation that is surrounding the individual. Where were you at? Where you feeling lonely, lack of approval, low social identity, low esteem..etc.



Desperation's causes desperate measures. We know that ill willed can stoop low or be completely ignorant to their self and then unaware of their inadvertent lies and negative actions.



Weak position again transitions to the deceit, unfaithfulness, abuse, lies, usage, weakening each other and so on.



Spouses should understand caring disciplines as well concerning support and strength of a union together being influenced by each others will and ability to attain will power.



Here is an example of intention and spouse respect along with selflessness.



Jax wants to come over and cuddle. Jax, "I just met you last night." What have I done to be worth of your affection and intimacy? What worth and sense of self love do you have? Have I proven my trust and loyalty? Do you care that I do? Why or why don't you? My own self worth will affect the way I treat you and your worth will affect the way you treat me.



Here are some good questions before I conclude this thread.



DO I have faith and trust with focus and Patience to allow my path to unfold?



Am I clinging to the past and how can I come out of stagnation?



How can I heal from the past and learn from my past to expand my growth?



We all have values but were mine in a mature order before I went into the relationship?



We all have compassion but am I abusing it or have I been allowing mine to become abused?



Have I really grounded myself yet as a independent individual with balance, self love and inner peace?




The Bible is a great way to discern a divine union. This post breaks down areas in a relationship that are often abused and misunderstood in simple terms. The Ten commandments are a divine foundation for all our relationships.



Take care



Love

Holly

Why is Pain an Opportunity for Harmony?

"It only hurts till the pain goes away" SFC Mainville Unites States Army.


He is correct; it is your choice to hold on or to let go. How can we do this?

We do carry pains and that influences what we attract; so we can say in fairness that we have held pain and the pain was infringed because we held it. We deserved the obstruction to become aware of its existance within ourselves so we may release it for good.

People and Situations will always transend into your life and they will repeat until we accept and heal the emotional pain with higher frequency.

So now we can conclude that the people involved can be resonating internal negative frequency acquired from their own pain. Many inadvertantly  contravene you due to their own emotional pain with lower senses of awareness.

"situations create lessons that ignite our awareness and motivate us to inquest our higher self intelligence and resonance"


We must put intent of higher thinking and understanding to the "wounded" area and recognize that that area was weak and deserved the pain so it could evolve and attain fruitation. That emotional area was underdeveloped and was not working in ways to manifest  its maximum capacity to endure those divine sensations and feelings we desire. It is in our best interest to flow energy of compassion to others that influence our emotional stature. By sending them visions and messages of higher frequency along with compassion we can help heal the severance we endured from the part in the given "lesson" applied to us. Remain open, compassionate and forgiving. You will be able to turn the situation of severance into a way to heal the pain that was infringed upon your emotions by transending others higher frequency thoughts and actions. The person and the situation are the resources we can influence to heal ourselves; by shining light and positve frequency to them.

"we often persevere with pain concerning physical growth in many demeanors so we can achieve what?"

First we must understand where the pain resonates. We know that the physical heals itself but pain still resonates after the physical curative. Our Acceptance of responsibility and comprehension of the cause of pain is the first stage of healing. Pain is deserved. We deserve to feel pain because it helps us become aware; it is a protection tactic. We can become aware of the causes presence. Our own forces have created it and that is also why we deserve it.


What lesson is this pain trying to teach me? How will I benifit by enduring this and transending positive light into the heart of the situation? How can I carry this wisdom with grace to evolve my growth and influence my future endeavors with greater awarness and Enlightenment?


You will not be able to heal from pain if you avoid it and abandon the opportunity to accept it with grace and instill light into it. We are being informed of an area in ourselves that has not been open up in balance; the area of internal pain has already been in pain and maybe supressed. Each circumstance that provokes emotional pain is a leasson to facilitate our growth becuase there are areas in ourselves that we shall deserve to unfold so we may experience Love, Peace, Joy and Harmony throught all areas of our emotions and feelings.

Perception is important. How we perceive the situation that caused the pain. We cannot lie to ourselves either; we must be honest with ourselves in order to take responsibility for our involvement in the action and how we handled it as well. An emotional attachment will cause us to jump to conclusions and we often will percieve a situation wrong; we may take defense and that will cause us to create conflicts.


Life is not easy and we are meant to experience challenges; its how we come out of those challenges and how we handle them that will give us the gifts of strength. Even the circumstances all the way down to childhood; we are not alone in anything. There are people all over the world that experience many injustices in child hood; worse in many third world countries.


Our internal self creates our actions. Thought, feeling, emotion then action. An emotion changes our feelings. We experience emotion. Ex Depressed and then we feel sad. Feelings are more easily recognized; the emotion goes deep. The change in emotions alters our feelings. These elements affect our behaviors. If we carry them, they will influence our behavior and what we attract. Emotions and feelings tell us if we are happy; if not we know our current circumstance is not fulfilling our needs.


First stages of resonate action


First; can you really let it go without acceptance? Can you really accept without understanding?


If you do not understand why or what is wrong; can you really get it out of your head? Now we have the thoughts in our head to influence our feelings and emotions, thus actions. If we lie to ourselves; how can we see the causes of our emotional turmoil? Here is the Justice. Especially in terms of situations that repeat themselves in our lives; we must stop and assess out internal self. If a situation is repeated; we must have helped create it. Here is where we must take accountability in the results we have received. Understand what emotion is causing us to involve our self into these circumstances. Not until we understand and accept our responsibility can we get the thoughts out of our head. The emotion misunderstood will evoke the thoughts that cause the emotion until we take accountability and control of our will.


We now undestand importance and how we can become aware. Here is an example of emotional awareness and the processess and issues that are cause by voiding our emotions.


Case Study: 24 year old John.


John has not lived alone but has been avoiding it. John was in relationships since high school. John moved out of his mothers after high school and pursued another relationship to then marry a woman. She left him. John during this time abandoned his dreams and his own grounding. He did not follow his career goals and personal aspirations. Neither did his spouse. Both have not lived alone to understand themselves. They abandoned themselves; thus they have abandoning relationships.


Because of this situation that John helped create John is: untrusting, in apathy, lacks his male identity, personal power, behind financially, feels low self esteem, thinks he was not good enough and overall has lost much time to evolve himself and have a clear direction. John has many problems with indecision because he never understood himself alone as a whole being first, John has been clouded with relationships before he ever became independent.


Because John is unaware of his inputs and emotional issues that helped create his marriage issue; he lacks trust and pushes others away. He assumes all will do the same. No, not all will do the same but he has to recognize that he needs to make better choices and get grounded alone as a man first. John was emotionally dependent. When we are dependent in any way; we often seek out anything for instant gratification; false securities.


John has the emotion; Depressed and has feelings of sadness and loneliness.
The cause of this sadness is abandoning relationship partners. First question; why are people abandoning me? Am I abandoning myself? I feel this emotion on my own fully now with no voids or coddling.


If one abandons themselves we know they abandon others. If you abandon yourself, people will be affected by your own self abandonment. Do you want to feel lonely and sad? I think not. We recognized how John attracted more abandonment. Let’s go deeper into the emotion. The emotion that lay deep within.


Depressed goes further. John never felt approved by his father. John felt rejection.


So because John avoided these feelings and never understood why his father gave him little attention and approval; John evolved negative coping strategies and avoided male pursuits of interest due to his emotional dependency on woman. Once the emotion goes unresolved from childhood there is a world of it out there to attract in male and female relationships. There is a world of the same issues for one to attract created false security and evolving more emotional issues due to the opposite sexes using in different mannerisms to feed the needs and insecurities.


If one does not approve of themselves; they will stay in a relationship with you for a need of validation. They will not approve but avoid what they dislike to keep you for a control. If one does not approve of themselves you will not make them happy and they will not give you sense of approval.


So this current issue has evolved from his childhood and John has become a people pleaser. Because John felt rejection from his father he feared rejections in the future. This causes John to fear being alone and to put up desperate measures to please woman. When a boy feels rejection or receives any type of abuse and neglect from a father; he will steer towards woman for approval.

Now this causes issues for John because he has more self abandonment concerning his male identity. Now John is developing feelings of low male worth and purpose.  John has also become a victim of controls concerning relationships; his esteem has also made him controlling in relationships as well. His trust issues and his people pleasing issues cause him to get hurt and abandoned easily. John has many bouts of meaningless relationships because he has not stopped to find meaning in himself. Overall; John deserves acceptance and that’s what caused the issue; lack of acceptance. John is a man and deserves to have male acceptance.

John is now 26 and has recognized his emotion and has recognized what caused it. His needs were not met at home concerning acceptance. John’s talents and abilities have gone unrecognized.  John has decided to join the US ARMY.


John has made many sacrifices; he did not pursue a relationship, he spent much time alone in contemplation to assess his emotions and feelings. John remained sober and started to balance his activities. John spent much time alone to seek within himself because he realized that inside him is where the answers lay. John practiced self love and gave himself introspective time. John also begun to learn more about himself and realized how to be content and get rid of feelings of boredom. John realized he held all that he needed inside and learned how to apply himself productively to positively impact himself and those around him.

John has received male identity, male camaraderie, recognition, promotion, high rank, and honor and emotionally John has acceptance. John feels empowered, appreciated, respected and he feels like a man. John is surrounded by loyal, sacrificing and worth individuals. John worth’s himself from his sacrifices and loyalty to his endeavor. John now does not engage in relationships easily. John is more careful and cautious. John knows he is important and he is accepted; he no longer seeks unhealthy relationships for approval with desperate acts to gain instant gratification or to feed selfish desires of another. John is carrying a positive, strong, empowering energy. John will attract like people. John’s social circle has changed for the better. John understands why his father did not give him approval; John faced it and forgave so he could move on with no emotional grudges. John has recognized that he does not deserve to be the victim from another ill will to help themselves and love themselves. John loves himself. John got grounded alone and feels content and practices self love;  so now he can attract love because he carries it inside.


 

Our sacrifices become our greatest achievements and personal power. You must seek the truth and seek it to its core. To absorb all of it; you must go in it with personal courage and seek it with your entire being. That is how we acclaim enlightenment. That is the only way we can make a fair judgments with Justice.

On a lighter note: One other discussion to ignite your thinking…………..


When it comes to our psyche; I have sacrificed myself in many areas of risk to seek farther into the truths of our mysterious nature and society turmoil. The real sacrifice is; you  exalting personal courage consistantly healing all of the emotions; Feeling them through to the bone when you are alone.

It has to be your will and your will as the only determining factor. A comfort or a void substance will only block you from feeling it to its true depths. How can you be sensual or experience it if you run from it? Sensuality can actually become heightened after you have sacrificed feeling  the pain in personal courage and persevering long term. Ask yourself; what is sensuality? If you want to relate to the senses, you must first relate to how we endure sensation. Empathy is a powerful practice that resonates passion. Passion is a strength energy that resonates from our higher self's awareness of our true hearts desires. Passion is instilled in our  chakras, it flows with every pulse and it then resonates throughout your entire body. What would sensual experiences be like if we endure the depths of the physical, mental and spiritual?


Honor to my first teachers; Jesus Christ and the highest power God. The most sovereign of Sacrifice and Selflessness devoting with forgiveness, grace and healing power. 

God Bless

Love

Holly

I want to thank my good friend Christine for assisting me on my path to discover Jesus and the grace of God ever since I was a little girl.