Abandonment wounds can grow from adult years concerning relationships but the root stems from childhood. Lack of support, recognition, rejection, absense of commitment and fully abandoning parents are deep planted seeds of wounds that become surpressed and a ripple effect occurs during the phases of life.
The roots of these actions cause other wounds such as rejection, injustice and self worth issues that often infringe future relationships. Self worth issues can ignite personal issues concerning shame, especially later on as the child may become a people pleaser to gain others approval and commitment early on in their innocence of years.(urges then manifest to give ones self easily to gain acceptance along with influences of low self worth) Future young adult and adult relationships that manifest of these hidden emotional currents create tides of more turmoil and reinforce the old beliefs and thinking patterns; it almost validates the wounds and reinforces behavioral patterns of destruction that feed the pain of the inner child. It keeps the cycle perserved in ones life.
Consider some of the causes of when a child experiences rejection, abandonment and lack of support. Do you think that a child could have an issue from a perpetrator and be rejected when they need support? How about when a child waits by that window for hours and mom or dad never shows up? How about when the wounded father takes his fist to his child and their is rejection and self worth along with shame but no mother there? A father or mother who hold wounds of guilt that may coddle the child and help create lack of personal courage? Do you think that this also causes poor confidence and influences levels of persevering in their male or female groups of identity? Add on the lack of recognition as well.
Neglect is a large form of abandonment as well. When a parent ignores a childs cry for help becuase thay choose not to believe or do not want to face the truth; that abandons the support, love and security the child deserves and needs while they are trying to recover from a perpetrator or other form of inner wounds. Neglecting to listen and follow through with our children and their concerns can cause and enable the current damamge being done by ignoring it and not applying corrective actions. That is neglecting and abandoning. What else can be infringed upon a child due to this?
In any way do you think that self love and self worth were taught concerning neglect and abandoment?
How about betrayal!? A child looks up to their superiors; dont they? The authorities that lay out the rules. Wouldnt that explain why many pre teens rebel? Do you think a child that has been abandoned and neglected trusts authorites and holds a deep level of respect and faith in them? Why would they? So now we can conclude and understand where trust becomes a big issue and respects to "superiors".
I always laid it down to any female superior especially in school; no joke. I was one to give such a cold cunning demeanor to men and it came so natural as well. It became close to a primal instinct. I turned into "Maltese falcon".
I want to stay on topic but consider this along with Sexual, Verbal and Physical abuse.
Lets look at the issues with lack of parental support. Well there is the practical trial and sadly error, School guidance counselors that have not gotten their wounds healed yet and are pretty ignorant in their level of expertise and exalt little passion and astute practice.
Pathetic story; Counselor from East Rochester -Rochestercross-examine; A 5 year old little girl reluctantly relayed her the deep data, she clearly was unworth of her job becuase she then accused her of sexual harrasment!? The girl was persecuted by both parents, judged, slapped, rejected and the abuse continued until the day "he" was caught. It caused more feelings of shame and it along with the abuse degraded self worth and innocence along with the ability to express her woman hood later on. She felt so betrayed and alone. It caused boundary issues (the ill supported wounds and abuse) at young and she became subjected to a few more perpetrators but luckly not to the intercourse extent.
Mrs. Oleary clearly had her emotional baggage still imprinted and sadly she is a Counselor!? She took it out on a 5 year old! The parents still held wounds but abused relationships for a security and had kids; sadly!? You see how the viscious cycle remains alive and active?
So you see how much self ignorance can cause obstruction and erradication!?
Then there is the close friend that expells it all out like the town crier and so on.............................................So what happens? Then the friends parents that may want to help but could not follow through what they started. Do you think that the child feels more alone and looses faith in being cared about? Do you think that the child will eventually want to run away?
Here is another issue as a child then tries friends or associates:
Case study: Single girl lives alone, no parents, aunt, uncle grandparent, works at EJ Delmonte Corp and attends full time college. She works in a chatty office of mainly females. Courious to experience a woman to woman connection she never had becuase she had no mother, grandma, aunt nothing. Girl lives now in the city and is a young 19 year old against the grain concerning race and gender in her apartment building. She has been undergoing much rejection, hatred, abuse and degrade; finnaly she breaks down and reaches out to express her concern after a year of it. She goes to a friend from work. All she wanted to do was spend a night with a friend to console her pain and get away from the rejection. No; the 25 year old friend offers her a "substance" and spreads the news to her girl friend at her job over the phoone. The girl friend on schedule at EJ spreads the news and so on...Now do not forget that females especially ones that cannot relate to abandonment or large levels of abuse will overdue or obstruct the condition even more concerning their ignorance of the issues with possible untamed emotions. So the message went on and was improvised and the supervisor was contacted at her home way away from the 19 year old. "No self infliction was done in that circumstance or proof it be done before concerning suicide and no words of it; she was under a substance influence in "nirvana". 19 year old girls first actual instinct when she saw the three cops was; "wow she set me up or something". The supervisor made no effort to contact the girlfirend with the 19 year old to get truth in the circumstance or even console the 19 year old. She took it upon herself to construct an ignorant factless diagnosis and called the cops to file a suicide crisis. The 19 year old was again pursecuted and threatend; against her will she had to go to the hospital or be arrested. She went and was immediatly released and then lost her job at EJ Delmonte ironicly the day she came back to work! This has happened to her in this demeanor many times. She has also been attacked by woman older than her becuase she would not lie for their DWI. Thrown out again with acts of haste and rejection. Added persecution to have her made to feel shame and guilt along with senses of unworthyness.
Males and females undergoe this betrayal trying to find one to confide in. Even at churches this happens.
Then consider if the male or female is attractive; more ridicule in catty demeanors.
Then consider ones that do not use illegal drugs or commit crimes; a clean record. Those individuals become victims of attacks becuase the innocence in that demeanor they hold is a threat to their perpetrators hanus activity. The perpetrator starts to feel their inner wounds and guilt just by the presence of what challenges their integrity and holds enough intelligent and psychological growth to discern. It creates more attack, persecution, rejection and haste unto the individual. Also consider females more especially; set-up as a victim just by living alone, they become an easy target.
So you see; how one resorts to a void to console them when they want to release the wounds that started young; its as if you get pursecuted for releasing your pain. You just end up going it alone. Its not even if you act out and are aware you lied, falsified, stole, cheated etc.....its just the sense of wanting comfort while releasing wounded concerns and one to confide in.
In simple terms they just want a parent becuase they are a child and it was the parents choice to create and they deserve to be nutured with Justice.
I will discuss shame in another post becuase shame can cause one to create it for themselves and they will then "not want to listen, hear or speak about it" similar to their infringed emotional pain they endured at the roots of childhood first causing shame.
The lack of parenting and the damages from refuge they seek create emotional pain which causes an emotional need; the intimacy. This issue in many cases and most is aroused by a shamfull event that keeps resonating................but no guidance in Justice; they will connect to intamacy alone in implanted and known demeanors of shame.
Shame becomes the form of intimacy and the way to connect the spark of it from the begining.
So this girl has had betrayal from; parents, siblings, school counsel, friends, parental figures of friends, employers, boys, men, criminals, authorites......................................ya see?
Run away from what? Unloved, rejection, hatred especially concerning what they then have to face in public schools, petty catty garbage! Running away from where it began and where they feel alone and unwanted.
Of course then we have the eager opposite sex! More confusion on top of no foundation of self worth, love, encouragment and support with consistancy and promise!
Resentment will build to superiors and utter lack of any faith; trying to put faith in them is like trying to open a cork in an aged wine bottle with your finger tips in Alaska. Pointless! I'll just go talk to the wall, thank you! I know the wall will be there................or the relationships, sex, food, drugs etc. Those will always be. They are promising. They can alway be relied upon along with the social identity that can be attained along with them will temper the feelings of rejection. Now a relationship begins. Ya see?
How about when a child is being abused and the parent does not support them and even may make them feel ashamed especially concerning sexual abuse? Do you think that that may cause sense of betrayal?
Sad thing is that even if there are two parents both may argue over the issues that a child has and ignore the needs of the child in their power struggles! This especially concerning when a child is abused by a sibling or another family member. (its very common between "step" family members) Any family caused abuse makes it worse becuase the fear of embarrasment that the family may endure; so at many times the child gets punished! Creating more low worth and shame along with rejection! Then consider when the parents try to discipline a kid from the turmoils they created! Really!? You want to discipline me after my behavior has been arrooused by yours! really!? Do not forget after the many years of abandonment and betrayal I have little audacity for you at that point and from your past actions and lack of actions it is percieved as a negative demeanor and abuse.
So far this discourse has been objective to actual facts but simplified. I have yet to begin the symantical and articulated facts and delineation of damage done. We "chafed" the ignition and stroked the fumes.
Holly M. Colino
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Saturday, January 1, 2011
Life when we exhibit stillness yet to endure into the unkown
As we change and humanity changes; changes on both sides occure. If may intergrating, learning, dating, full independence, travel, education, spirit and so on that will change the way you connect to humanity; thus you will change in areas of yourself.
Changes start by truth and acceptances and releasing old thinking patterns. Self revelations. Eliminating excess and old attitudes, experiencing transition and getting back to basics, endings bring us new beginings with a realization and new attitude to life assisting us in healing and creating more fruitfull endeavors. Leaving our long term known and finnaly enbracing what we have yet to discover and learn from. Step into the unkown with personal courage to embrace our highest self and maximum potentails. Its your choice and you know what needs change. Its the attitudes, emotions and beliefs we carry that can create changes. We hold the power of change and manifestation; its our will to create it and how fast we want to see it through faith and perseverance within all we wish to achieve.
What have you yet to endure? I dont care if you like it or not; how do you know until you try? Dont tell me you will not discover anything if you do it. Have you endured yourself alone? If you had to rule your roost and mandate your own base; what can you excel at and what do you not give a rats ass to do? Even if its a need like cooking and you only have you to do it; how do you approach it? Where do you find the the most beneficial and enjoyable social endeavors and why? What pursuits have you followed and why are you in stillness?
I am often pressed for advices concerning the future and this has been a lesson I have learned. How many have dwelled on either the past and have focused so much on the past to only endure doubs about our future while omitting the present "in the now" life we have? The truth is if we are not living in the now we are never trully living or thriving; we are just muddling away at life and rejecting out opportunities in front of us becuase we hold blockages. We may also be oppressing to others by our tense and anxious demeanors to have the answers. Often many are so eager to know the outcome before things have even begun that they create pressure which manifests turmoils. First I want to clear up confusions that arise from dissapointment and past blockages.
We know challenge and opportunity go hand in hand; what level and amount of challenges have you endured and been willing to create? What level of self faith have you held effecting your belief in triumphing in challenges and facing fears? We do not think, unexpectedly experience or inquest a challenge that we are not worthy of becuase it was our internal resonance that attracted it.
What cause your stagnance? Is it a fear of a change? Are you to worried about the outcome and are forgetting that we embrace ouselves in new light with new endeavors? Do you honestly feel you have intergrated in an array of endeavors and exalted a consistancy of independence in all activities residing with yourself? Dont you think you will learn about yourself if you dive into what you yet have to do? Hey even in endeavors that challenge our values, lets test how true we are to them! Lets see how deep they really go! Lets see out internal force resist and lets see inquest the test. What level of culture including skilled trades have you embraced? Have you ever tried to build rapport with soicla groups you may not agree with? Have you ever tried to establish understanding of how they evolved to where they are?
Now concerning our minds when hitting that ultimate low in the abyss of apathy.
Our trials and tribulations motivate us to reach deep into our resonate self and to seek deeper truth so me may understand oursleves better. Confusion and blockages within us obstruct us from manifesting changes, holding on to "dead wood" and refusal to see the truth blocks us from clarity and self ascension, thus it blocks us from changes.
Also as we al have held a job or pursuit; where is it in our hearts? Do you only have the action of fine cooking for family or do you hold that dear to your friends? Where in your life does all your skills apply? Who and what do you feel is worthy? Who will appreciate and even pay for your service? What service is in your heart with good intetnions to humanity where others will see the value of it and where?
We are reminded that in all situations we shall be open to seeing others points of view not just ours. We must be willing to embrace some level of humility and acceptanc of our actions involved. We shall also be thankfull for what we have and recognize that we shall not endure life as flat if we are not recieving our way in a situation that we may have impacted and influenced concerning the outcome. We must recognize that releasing involves maturation and wisdom we are deserving and needing to attain in order to create and endure a fruitfull relationship or endeavor. The universe is full of opportunties and in order to embrace we can not dwell on what we are dissapointed with and unconsciously ignore the opportunities that are in existance all around us. It is important to reflect and become aware of ourselves, we shall not put focus on the other individual becuase it was the world that transmitted that person to test you in that created circumstance for you to learn about yourself and mature. We need only to reach within ourselves with honesty and forgive ourselves then we may attain enlightenement with allowing those areas to mature so we can create the joy and love we desire. Each situation is a level of self realization that we can attain. Each situation is a lesson for attained wisdom. Each situation of we accept the truth and honesty of what we yet have to do for self worth will set the stage for our next ventures and self applications. Open yourself to surroundings and engage yourself in activities that captivate your heart to create meaning within yourself.
More on embracing stillness;
We can also enjoy the finer things in life. It is also a sign that you may need to reject the common conduits and chase to inquest the higher path. "Hard control and direct will with focus" Mastery of self. You may have to "sacrifice" for the moment and endure stillness but the results will be worth your level of time applied to your atrategies and ascension. Quality over quantity to achieve your maximum results. What areas of refinement can you attain? How true are you on your path of inner calling?We can expand ourselfs and elevate our creative focus and natural abilities. Assessing our path to our true calling and honing our targets to where we can express and exalt our ablities wiithin that focus can be achieved with stillness and solitude.
We can also look back on this situations to prepare us for our next frontlines. How can we remain calm with dignity in our lines of opposition and challenge? What way can we lead with example and respect others opinions and feelings in the situation? How can you use diplomacy to find common ground? How can you create a better way to handling resoltions?
"Every loss is a gain of self actualization and a relief that we are no longer standing on false security, so you gain liberation with new wisdom and lessons on self worth"
Remember to look back on your choices as a secrecy and enigma to gain pre-cognition and clarity about yourself; see it as a story. Look at all your actions and choices and examine patterns and ways that you have evolved from them. Examine patterns of values, beliefs and attitudes that recieved positive results and behaviors and actions that you always instill in all circumstances.
Also please consider; are there any substances you have relied upon? Clearly you do it and gain a sense of "euphoria", so you are not creating that feeling out of sheer will; dont forget that. Do you think that, that can isolate you and block you from finding causes that can be created from your own human apparatus and mind along with spirited connection? What would you have to act upon if you did not have that substance? What does it take to recreate what your getting from that substance?
Truth is; we hold the answers to our contrivances and we work to create the answers to our hapiness. The universe provides an array of opportunities for growth, learning, evoltion, trial, expansion, ascension and harmony. The universe facilitates the counterparts beside our human apparatus that are needed to manifest the answers that lay within to attaining our true hearts desires. Your life and purposes are in which you choose to create; we all have free will.
What is the passion of your goals? What leap of faith have you always wanted to take? What are your intentions and what affects to humanity does it hold? What attitudes, emotions and beliefs need change and what do they need to adopt?What wil really give you the sensation of what you want? Are there any inner impulses or voices that have always been within you? What goals can you establish; even small steps to attain this venture?
We hold the power to create what we desire in the time and the level of self ascension we desire to inquest. Your will and attitude is the creater of what you desire. I can tell you of all I see but your perception of it is what matters and your choices within each circumstance combined with your actions and behaviors. The way you choose to handle your circumstances and intentions govern your outcomes. The univers is the force that allows us to grow and your aplications; the universe provides and will always transend people to you and you create the circumtances; situations arise for our facilitation and growth. We create our future.
If we inquest only the outcomes; we then create disregards to the elements needed to achieve the outcomes. We may be so focused on the desired outcome that we may never realize that the pursuit is not what we desire either becuase we know certain pusuits offer certain outcomes in specific demeanors but is that specific person job etc what we really want? The personal courage to discover and trust are ways we lead and write our path. Every day and hour we are presented with choice. How we handle situations, self assertions when with others or alone, personal choice without duties and orders, receptivity to others and the universe concerning information, people, and the overal receptivity to the universe in all its opportunities ir brings to us. Stillness and trusting along with putting our intentions to flow compassion and divine interest to all in our circumstances. To ask our guides for truth, divine opportunities and solutions.
"If we expect the universe to provide; we must put faith in it, as it provides to us and put s faith in us"
"Integrity; the ability to remain ethical and honest standing by our true self with truth in exposure; remaining patient, self confident and persevering with a positive attitude in all circumstances including the unknowns by putting faith into ourself and will power with forthright personal courage"
Do not forget that everything has a relationship, there is always a counterpart to an element. You have an action but its the intention behind it that rules the results. Actions will always attain results and the way we nurture them. The intention is very influential. Think about a seed you plant, think about your intention to plant a rose bush or bank account; remember the way you nurture "persevere" within that planting and attention to the harvesting. Think about the results you have attained with examinations about your intentions; see if you notice a difference concerning the integrity you carried out and the results attained. Have faith but have good intentions. I am very assured all of you have attained positive results from a seed you have planted.
You are the commander of your dreams and you are the one who delegates with the universe to create that dream.
Love
Holly
Changes start by truth and acceptances and releasing old thinking patterns. Self revelations. Eliminating excess and old attitudes, experiencing transition and getting back to basics, endings bring us new beginings with a realization and new attitude to life assisting us in healing and creating more fruitfull endeavors. Leaving our long term known and finnaly enbracing what we have yet to discover and learn from. Step into the unkown with personal courage to embrace our highest self and maximum potentails. Its your choice and you know what needs change. Its the attitudes, emotions and beliefs we carry that can create changes. We hold the power of change and manifestation; its our will to create it and how fast we want to see it through faith and perseverance within all we wish to achieve.
What have you yet to endure? I dont care if you like it or not; how do you know until you try? Dont tell me you will not discover anything if you do it. Have you endured yourself alone? If you had to rule your roost and mandate your own base; what can you excel at and what do you not give a rats ass to do? Even if its a need like cooking and you only have you to do it; how do you approach it? Where do you find the the most beneficial and enjoyable social endeavors and why? What pursuits have you followed and why are you in stillness?
I am often pressed for advices concerning the future and this has been a lesson I have learned. How many have dwelled on either the past and have focused so much on the past to only endure doubs about our future while omitting the present "in the now" life we have? The truth is if we are not living in the now we are never trully living or thriving; we are just muddling away at life and rejecting out opportunities in front of us becuase we hold blockages. We may also be oppressing to others by our tense and anxious demeanors to have the answers. Often many are so eager to know the outcome before things have even begun that they create pressure which manifests turmoils. First I want to clear up confusions that arise from dissapointment and past blockages.
We know challenge and opportunity go hand in hand; what level and amount of challenges have you endured and been willing to create? What level of self faith have you held effecting your belief in triumphing in challenges and facing fears? We do not think, unexpectedly experience or inquest a challenge that we are not worthy of becuase it was our internal resonance that attracted it.
What cause your stagnance? Is it a fear of a change? Are you to worried about the outcome and are forgetting that we embrace ouselves in new light with new endeavors? Do you honestly feel you have intergrated in an array of endeavors and exalted a consistancy of independence in all activities residing with yourself? Dont you think you will learn about yourself if you dive into what you yet have to do? Hey even in endeavors that challenge our values, lets test how true we are to them! Lets see how deep they really go! Lets see out internal force resist and lets see inquest the test. What level of culture including skilled trades have you embraced? Have you ever tried to build rapport with soicla groups you may not agree with? Have you ever tried to establish understanding of how they evolved to where they are?
Now concerning our minds when hitting that ultimate low in the abyss of apathy.
Our trials and tribulations motivate us to reach deep into our resonate self and to seek deeper truth so me may understand oursleves better. Confusion and blockages within us obstruct us from manifesting changes, holding on to "dead wood" and refusal to see the truth blocks us from clarity and self ascension, thus it blocks us from changes.
Also as we al have held a job or pursuit; where is it in our hearts? Do you only have the action of fine cooking for family or do you hold that dear to your friends? Where in your life does all your skills apply? Who and what do you feel is worthy? Who will appreciate and even pay for your service? What service is in your heart with good intetnions to humanity where others will see the value of it and where?
We are reminded that in all situations we shall be open to seeing others points of view not just ours. We must be willing to embrace some level of humility and acceptanc of our actions involved. We shall also be thankfull for what we have and recognize that we shall not endure life as flat if we are not recieving our way in a situation that we may have impacted and influenced concerning the outcome. We must recognize that releasing involves maturation and wisdom we are deserving and needing to attain in order to create and endure a fruitfull relationship or endeavor. The universe is full of opportunties and in order to embrace we can not dwell on what we are dissapointed with and unconsciously ignore the opportunities that are in existance all around us. It is important to reflect and become aware of ourselves, we shall not put focus on the other individual becuase it was the world that transmitted that person to test you in that created circumstance for you to learn about yourself and mature. We need only to reach within ourselves with honesty and forgive ourselves then we may attain enlightenement with allowing those areas to mature so we can create the joy and love we desire. Each situation is a level of self realization that we can attain. Each situation is a lesson for attained wisdom. Each situation of we accept the truth and honesty of what we yet have to do for self worth will set the stage for our next ventures and self applications. Open yourself to surroundings and engage yourself in activities that captivate your heart to create meaning within yourself.
More on embracing stillness;
We can also enjoy the finer things in life. It is also a sign that you may need to reject the common conduits and chase to inquest the higher path. "Hard control and direct will with focus" Mastery of self. You may have to "sacrifice" for the moment and endure stillness but the results will be worth your level of time applied to your atrategies and ascension. Quality over quantity to achieve your maximum results. What areas of refinement can you attain? How true are you on your path of inner calling?We can expand ourselfs and elevate our creative focus and natural abilities. Assessing our path to our true calling and honing our targets to where we can express and exalt our ablities wiithin that focus can be achieved with stillness and solitude.
We can also look back on this situations to prepare us for our next frontlines. How can we remain calm with dignity in our lines of opposition and challenge? What way can we lead with example and respect others opinions and feelings in the situation? How can you use diplomacy to find common ground? How can you create a better way to handling resoltions?
"Every loss is a gain of self actualization and a relief that we are no longer standing on false security, so you gain liberation with new wisdom and lessons on self worth"
Remember to look back on your choices as a secrecy and enigma to gain pre-cognition and clarity about yourself; see it as a story. Look at all your actions and choices and examine patterns and ways that you have evolved from them. Examine patterns of values, beliefs and attitudes that recieved positive results and behaviors and actions that you always instill in all circumstances.
Also please consider; are there any substances you have relied upon? Clearly you do it and gain a sense of "euphoria", so you are not creating that feeling out of sheer will; dont forget that. Do you think that, that can isolate you and block you from finding causes that can be created from your own human apparatus and mind along with spirited connection? What would you have to act upon if you did not have that substance? What does it take to recreate what your getting from that substance?
Truth is; we hold the answers to our contrivances and we work to create the answers to our hapiness. The universe provides an array of opportunities for growth, learning, evoltion, trial, expansion, ascension and harmony. The universe facilitates the counterparts beside our human apparatus that are needed to manifest the answers that lay within to attaining our true hearts desires. Your life and purposes are in which you choose to create; we all have free will.
What is the passion of your goals? What leap of faith have you always wanted to take? What are your intentions and what affects to humanity does it hold? What attitudes, emotions and beliefs need change and what do they need to adopt?What wil really give you the sensation of what you want? Are there any inner impulses or voices that have always been within you? What goals can you establish; even small steps to attain this venture?
We hold the power to create what we desire in the time and the level of self ascension we desire to inquest. Your will and attitude is the creater of what you desire. I can tell you of all I see but your perception of it is what matters and your choices within each circumstance combined with your actions and behaviors. The way you choose to handle your circumstances and intentions govern your outcomes. The univers is the force that allows us to grow and your aplications; the universe provides and will always transend people to you and you create the circumtances; situations arise for our facilitation and growth. We create our future.
If we inquest only the outcomes; we then create disregards to the elements needed to achieve the outcomes. We may be so focused on the desired outcome that we may never realize that the pursuit is not what we desire either becuase we know certain pusuits offer certain outcomes in specific demeanors but is that specific person job etc what we really want? The personal courage to discover and trust are ways we lead and write our path. Every day and hour we are presented with choice. How we handle situations, self assertions when with others or alone, personal choice without duties and orders, receptivity to others and the universe concerning information, people, and the overal receptivity to the universe in all its opportunities ir brings to us. Stillness and trusting along with putting our intentions to flow compassion and divine interest to all in our circumstances. To ask our guides for truth, divine opportunities and solutions.
"If we expect the universe to provide; we must put faith in it, as it provides to us and put s faith in us"
"Integrity; the ability to remain ethical and honest standing by our true self with truth in exposure; remaining patient, self confident and persevering with a positive attitude in all circumstances including the unknowns by putting faith into ourself and will power with forthright personal courage"
Do not forget that everything has a relationship, there is always a counterpart to an element. You have an action but its the intention behind it that rules the results. Actions will always attain results and the way we nurture them. The intention is very influential. Think about a seed you plant, think about your intention to plant a rose bush or bank account; remember the way you nurture "persevere" within that planting and attention to the harvesting. Think about the results you have attained with examinations about your intentions; see if you notice a difference concerning the integrity you carried out and the results attained. Have faith but have good intentions. I am very assured all of you have attained positive results from a seed you have planted.
You are the commander of your dreams and you are the one who delegates with the universe to create that dream.
Love
Holly
Wednesday, December 29, 2010
Inquest Abysmal Truth Within The Higher Self
How many have had repeat situations?
Every "Situation" in life is a learning experience and lesson. Life experience applies to the same theory of a school exam; YOU must take it until YOU pass it on your own without counsel and outside help. You then seek the "truths". YOU engross yourself with the knowledge that applies to the "situation" (test); YOU discern and formulate your best affluent strategy. YOU must grasp the truth and YOU must move fowards with the Truth; it cannot be denied.
Every situation in your life requires you to seek deep thruth is an opportunity to evolve and attain self Ascension.
Self Ascension: deliberates the conscious decision to bring one’s life experience into alignment with higer self (spirit self) soul consciousness. A consistant active approach superseding the ego and unordered thoughts that prevents one from living in the now and trusting in their inner awareness.
The more heartache and trial you experience the more you have to seek the truth into yourself and then become an aware being with growth.To raise your frequency higher; go within and ask yourself. Seek deeper truth to elevate your vibration. Initiate your next steps with the inherited truths influencing you judgments. If you do not let yourself see the truth and carry it out, you will keep acquiring the same situations as "lessons" until you do. Another person and situation will ascend your way as another test and opportunity for you to pass it and release it entirely out of your life. The test will keep coming until YOU handle it independently and trust in yourself and become Enlightened.
Once you exhibit your higher vibration you can attract the same frequency and you will think differently about requesting info and answers from ones who do not hold the truth in your situations becuase no one holds the truth to you or your partners in the given situation. Your partner who may or may not have self truth and ascension; so no one but you can judge it. Even if the other parties lack self truth; you can at least go within to seek yours concerning the situation and make the judgement call. No one else can but YOU.
We can and should show gratitude for the many situations that evolve in our life becuase its from those situations that we are presented with ambition to inquest our resonate self. We then attain what self understanding is; Enlightenment. We then can raise our vibration and predict outcomes and attract higher frequency with higher self awareness and Ascension.
Every "Situation" in life is a learning experience and lesson. Life experience applies to the same theory of a school exam; YOU must take it until YOU pass it on your own without counsel and outside help. You then seek the "truths". YOU engross yourself with the knowledge that applies to the "situation" (test); YOU discern and formulate your best affluent strategy. YOU must grasp the truth and YOU must move fowards with the Truth; it cannot be denied.
Every situation in your life requires you to seek deep thruth is an opportunity to evolve and attain self Ascension.
Self Ascension: deliberates the conscious decision to bring one’s life experience into alignment with higer self (spirit self) soul consciousness. A consistant active approach superseding the ego and unordered thoughts that prevents one from living in the now and trusting in their inner awareness.
The more heartache and trial you experience the more you have to seek the truth into yourself and then become an aware being with growth.To raise your frequency higher; go within and ask yourself. Seek deeper truth to elevate your vibration. Initiate your next steps with the inherited truths influencing you judgments. If you do not let yourself see the truth and carry it out, you will keep acquiring the same situations as "lessons" until you do. Another person and situation will ascend your way as another test and opportunity for you to pass it and release it entirely out of your life. The test will keep coming until YOU handle it independently and trust in yourself and become Enlightened.
Once you exhibit your higher vibration you can attract the same frequency and you will think differently about requesting info and answers from ones who do not hold the truth in your situations becuase no one holds the truth to you or your partners in the given situation. Your partner who may or may not have self truth and ascension; so no one but you can judge it. Even if the other parties lack self truth; you can at least go within to seek yours concerning the situation and make the judgement call. No one else can but YOU.
We can and should show gratitude for the many situations that evolve in our life becuase its from those situations that we are presented with ambition to inquest our resonate self. We then attain what self understanding is; Enlightenment. We then can raise our vibration and predict outcomes and attract higher frequency with higher self awareness and Ascension.
Saturday, December 25, 2010
Investigating the Truth; The Cause
This topic delineates the Truth of a behavior or addiction ignited from a Root Cause.
If anyone has suffered from abandonment this may help you but I am going to delineate my personal findings here;
The way I break it down; Behaviors, Affects, Influences, Root, Situation
BEHAVIOR: addiction (sex, excersise, food, drugs) My choice - Tabacco
EFFECTS: Anxiety, Anxious & Anguish, Perception
INFLUENCES: Trust
ROOT: Abandonment
SITUATION: Mother left at birth and inccesantly failed to act in her words, Father gone at 15- for privacy I am leaving out details.
Also; remmember that there is a need unmet in all cicumstances and that behaviors are more influencined by the way you percieve others in concern to an unhealed root cause in life. The addictions are more associated with the "void" need that was unmet. Often its associated with a bondage or intimacy.
So in this case; sadly my initamcy was Tabacoo but unsadly it did not infringe anothers path in life.
My behavioral responses influenced by my perceptions were jumping to conclusions and percieving situations as "its probably not anything permanent"
Another factor; Perceptions then increased in influence by the addiction becuase in many circumstances; I as an only smoker would cause me to be alone in the addiction, thus feeling alone around people at times.
Perception is influenced by the effects from the situation, then the emotional need cause by abandonment, Trust, lack of trust ignited those feelings and those feelings ignite perceptions and the perception feeds the feeelings, thus feeding the root negetive energy (emotional pain) Abandonment. Thus the feelings and perceptions cycled the issue worse and the coping was more in urgency and the age of maturity also impacted the social and instant gratification influences; Tabacco.
So it took the Situation that manifested to Create Abandonment, which then created Trust issues, then feelings of anxiety, anxiousness, and anguish influenced the perceptions, perceptions fed the feelings, and the behavior or substance that tempered it all was Tabacco.
Permanance and Trust are challenged from Abandonment issues.
Anguish is a result after the dissapointement takes place when the abandonment actions occur. Anxious when waiting for the call, response, person to arrive, or even post the root effect in childhood; meeting new people.
At young; innocence and candor still resonate. So the anxiousness induces more manifestation along with candor to create more abandonimg situations especially when one parent dates many men or woman. You recieve youthfull innocent attachemnts and they keep coming and going. As one progresses anxiety about the situation and outcome (perceptions) becomes influenced by the root cause and the consistancy of the abandoning situations that create consistant feelings. So anxiety about the situation of bonding with anything holds a perception that is fed by the feelings (anxious, anxiety, anguish) associated with the Trust that was ignited by the Abandonment. The Abandonment is connected to the situation; loss of Mom and Dad; thus effecting a specific demeanor of potential relationships. Since it was both male and female, alomost all; except children. These issues (emotions and feelings) have been resonating and fed since childhood; to the point where they are implanted, thus these negative habits of thoughts from the feelings and the thoughts provoking the feeling influencing perceptions that feed the feelings, Trust and abandonment are influencing the instant habit of a coping strategy. The youth in the situation is inclined to yeild or seek gateway measures; Tobacco in this case.
Since these emotions, feelings and thoughts have been implanted; now a natural habit and response; whatever coping strategy we associate it with also becomes implanted. First it is a brainwashing that ignites from the Roots and it is then a natural association to (behave, cope) in a particular manner inwhich that activity was inccesantly implanting the responses from the root causes. So now we associate the coping strategy with the way to temper the feelings from the Root cause. Another brain washing.
Cognitive bahavior can be applied once the Root cause has been delineated all the way in stages to the addiction or behavior. Positive thoughts and affirmations must be programmed into the brain and practiced consistantly. Implimenting new corrective actions and implimenting factors that caused any emotional need should also be implimented. Alot of digging and instinctive responses to self examination questions here!
Recognize the addiction, behavior, habit.
Ask yourself what are your feelings? What is the first emotion you connect to those feelings?
What bonding or relationship issue do you have?
Ex. Are you controlling? Well what causes control? (Jealousy) Why jealous?
Rx. Are you accusational? What causes accusations? Trust?
Whats the root of the above Questions? Abandonment, sexual abuse, Rejection?
Delineate the situation once you have put a Title on it Ex. Rejection; then delineate the situation of rejection.......
This has helped me......Now we clearly deserve trust, acceptance and so on.....
What else here in the situation of abandonment?
What was the demeanor of the situation; child loss of parents. what deep emotional need caused anguish, Feeling Unloved!
I Forgive; I honer still; thy Father and thy Mother
I do not need parents to manifest Love; I need to resonate love to manifest it!
My sacrifices are my biggest honors. Others are enduring my pain. I am Loved or else I would not have a place on the Universe! Self Love here I come Baby! Faith you are always with me, I feel loving energy from you.
No nurture & little recognition- I give it to myself and enage my self where it can be attained. I also give it to others with a passion.
Trust: I trust in me and I am Loyal to others with a passion; I put confidence and self worth unto myself so I can trust in others.
Divine Love
Holly
If anyone has suffered from abandonment this may help you but I am going to delineate my personal findings here;
The way I break it down; Behaviors, Affects, Influences, Root, Situation
BEHAVIOR: addiction (sex, excersise, food, drugs) My choice - Tabacco
EFFECTS: Anxiety, Anxious & Anguish, Perception
INFLUENCES: Trust
ROOT: Abandonment
SITUATION: Mother left at birth and inccesantly failed to act in her words, Father gone at 15- for privacy I am leaving out details.
Also; remmember that there is a need unmet in all cicumstances and that behaviors are more influencined by the way you percieve others in concern to an unhealed root cause in life. The addictions are more associated with the "void" need that was unmet. Often its associated with a bondage or intimacy.
So in this case; sadly my initamcy was Tabacoo but unsadly it did not infringe anothers path in life.
My behavioral responses influenced by my perceptions were jumping to conclusions and percieving situations as "its probably not anything permanent"
Another factor; Perceptions then increased in influence by the addiction becuase in many circumstances; I as an only smoker would cause me to be alone in the addiction, thus feeling alone around people at times.
Perception is influenced by the effects from the situation, then the emotional need cause by abandonment, Trust, lack of trust ignited those feelings and those feelings ignite perceptions and the perception feeds the feeelings, thus feeding the root negetive energy (emotional pain) Abandonment. Thus the feelings and perceptions cycled the issue worse and the coping was more in urgency and the age of maturity also impacted the social and instant gratification influences; Tabacco.
So it took the Situation that manifested to Create Abandonment, which then created Trust issues, then feelings of anxiety, anxiousness, and anguish influenced the perceptions, perceptions fed the feelings, and the behavior or substance that tempered it all was Tabacco.
Permanance and Trust are challenged from Abandonment issues.
Anguish is a result after the dissapointement takes place when the abandonment actions occur. Anxious when waiting for the call, response, person to arrive, or even post the root effect in childhood; meeting new people.
At young; innocence and candor still resonate. So the anxiousness induces more manifestation along with candor to create more abandonimg situations especially when one parent dates many men or woman. You recieve youthfull innocent attachemnts and they keep coming and going. As one progresses anxiety about the situation and outcome (perceptions) becomes influenced by the root cause and the consistancy of the abandoning situations that create consistant feelings. So anxiety about the situation of bonding with anything holds a perception that is fed by the feelings (anxious, anxiety, anguish) associated with the Trust that was ignited by the Abandonment. The Abandonment is connected to the situation; loss of Mom and Dad; thus effecting a specific demeanor of potential relationships. Since it was both male and female, alomost all; except children. These issues (emotions and feelings) have been resonating and fed since childhood; to the point where they are implanted, thus these negative habits of thoughts from the feelings and the thoughts provoking the feeling influencing perceptions that feed the feelings, Trust and abandonment are influencing the instant habit of a coping strategy. The youth in the situation is inclined to yeild or seek gateway measures; Tobacco in this case.
Since these emotions, feelings and thoughts have been implanted; now a natural habit and response; whatever coping strategy we associate it with also becomes implanted. First it is a brainwashing that ignites from the Roots and it is then a natural association to (behave, cope) in a particular manner inwhich that activity was inccesantly implanting the responses from the root causes. So now we associate the coping strategy with the way to temper the feelings from the Root cause. Another brain washing.
Cognitive bahavior can be applied once the Root cause has been delineated all the way in stages to the addiction or behavior. Positive thoughts and affirmations must be programmed into the brain and practiced consistantly. Implimenting new corrective actions and implimenting factors that caused any emotional need should also be implimented. Alot of digging and instinctive responses to self examination questions here!
Recognize the addiction, behavior, habit.
Ask yourself what are your feelings? What is the first emotion you connect to those feelings?
What bonding or relationship issue do you have?
Ex. Are you controlling? Well what causes control? (Jealousy) Why jealous?
Rx. Are you accusational? What causes accusations? Trust?
Whats the root of the above Questions? Abandonment, sexual abuse, Rejection?
Delineate the situation once you have put a Title on it Ex. Rejection; then delineate the situation of rejection.......
This has helped me......Now we clearly deserve trust, acceptance and so on.....
What else here in the situation of abandonment?
What was the demeanor of the situation; child loss of parents. what deep emotional need caused anguish, Feeling Unloved!
I Forgive; I honer still; thy Father and thy Mother
I do not need parents to manifest Love; I need to resonate love to manifest it!
My sacrifices are my biggest honors. Others are enduring my pain. I am Loved or else I would not have a place on the Universe! Self Love here I come Baby! Faith you are always with me, I feel loving energy from you.
No nurture & little recognition- I give it to myself and enage my self where it can be attained. I also give it to others with a passion.
Trust: I trust in me and I am Loyal to others with a passion; I put confidence and self worth unto myself so I can trust in others.
Divine Love
Holly
Justice Intention 2
"Worth Yourself; You Worth the Other; The other Worths themself and You Equally; "Balanced" thus Worthy of a Relationship"
During my counsel sessions including applications for myself; I have concluded that intentions are gravely influenced by levels of self abandonment. Self abandonment elevates insecurity. We all know insecurity influences emotional controls. This is a large factor that initiates the turmoil and obstructs the ability to endure a harmonious relationship.
Security is within the self but when unacheived; many inquest security in relationships and band themselves.
During my counsel sessions including applications for myself; I have concluded that intentions are gravely influenced by levels of self abandonment. Self abandonment elevates insecurity. We all know insecurity influences emotional controls. This is a large factor that initiates the turmoil and obstructs the ability to endure a harmonious relationship.
Security is within the self but when unacheived; many inquest security in relationships and band themselves.
Many may recall the instant gratifications and the black and white changes later on in the relationship; especially post a marraige or lease agreement.
Your causes earn your results; Justice
Your causes earn your results; Justice
In respects to the above statement; carried energy (creating action; cause) Ex. Improvised sex appeals or money (controls) you will attract the same energy you carried mentally with intetnion to direct your energy.
It takes time and thought to present one self with affixed sex appeals or easy money hand outs. It takes low self worth and ignorance to disregard your body and foundation. (time at job, quality of work, education, finances etc.) Now especially concerning the opposite sex, they are rightfully in the knowing of the opposite sex's tendancies. Ignorance will not recognize that their intention assists in manifesting their results!
Do you want to elevate your consciousness to your highest self?
Do you want to elevate your rank as a Fool?
Females have a Regal known ability intuition. Utilize it and do it with an honorable intention! Why is it that so many of you practice extreme measures of spending, time, competition, catty acts, and energy to prize your image? Redeem yourself from your created turmoils and improvised pity and hardship to gain a man's sympathy as well, that makes you a target for deceit!
Men; concerning negative energies that are applied; discerning ways to utilize money (physical: material energies). Mental manipulation is pretty useless because females premeditate, formulate reasons with sharper intuition. Any intelligent woman with self worth and morals knows she shall not need or desire your money and be treated like a trophy. A worthy woman will not abuse younger males who have little direction and independence. No Mom and boy relationship demeanors.
Have you ever felt as you were attracting the same patterns? Its not the partner; its the situation that creates the security that you hold on to becuase you clearly did not hold self security; it was security you loved. Both deserve to inquest self inner peace and security by practicing disciplines and self love to break this vicious cycle that they are manifesting. Emotion recognition can also ignite healing to prevent misunderstood urges of behavior.The energies you resonate are the energies you manifest. Intention flows and mind directs the energies.
[Mind (Intention) Cause (Action)] = Effects (Results) "Balance"
2+2=4 [2 (Intention) + 2 (Cause) = 4 (Results)
"Cause Plus intention" IE; reasons are connected along with truth in ones circumstances in life may be non exposed.
2 and 2 equal the results; lets look at demeanors in the equation;
Men; concerning negative energies that are applied; discerning ways to utilize money (physical: material energies). Mental manipulation is pretty useless because females premeditate, formulate reasons with sharper intuition. Any intelligent woman with self worth and morals knows she shall not need or desire your money and be treated like a trophy. A worthy woman will not abuse younger males who have little direction and independence. No Mom and boy relationship demeanors.
Have you ever felt as you were attracting the same patterns? Its not the partner; its the situation that creates the security that you hold on to becuase you clearly did not hold self security; it was security you loved. Both deserve to inquest self inner peace and security by practicing disciplines and self love to break this vicious cycle that they are manifesting. Emotion recognition can also ignite healing to prevent misunderstood urges of behavior.The energies you resonate are the energies you manifest. Intention flows and mind directs the energies.
[Mind (Intention) Cause (Action)] = Effects (Results) "Balance"
2+2=4 [2 (Intention) + 2 (Cause) = 4 (Results)
"Cause Plus intention" IE; reasons are connected along with truth in ones circumstances in life may be non exposed.
2 and 2 equal the results; lets look at demeanors in the equation;
manipulate(Intention)+ Texting Sexy photographs with much added sex appeal and with little rapport(Action)=MANIPULATING(Results) [with words(male demeanor)to get sex appeal related activity with no respect and love. The male also then recognized the obvious weakness due to her physicall appearance proving desire for sense of security and attetnion; he then proceeded to feed of of that weakness.
No committment was presented for the "resultee" to get the "cause" sex appeal and instant approval; Why would there be long term committment after the fact of the proceeding acts?
Intention can be genuine; we can apply positive intention and really focus our intention and direct divine energy flow to areas deserving of our attention.
Self love; “ I embrace divine inner peace and harmony” I embrace the truth of my divine self and embrace the truth of all my relationships”
The intention is the seed that is sown. The seed will grow and blossom; did you plant Poison Ivy or Divine Flowers?
Hope this sheds light
Divine Light is within you
Love Holly
I would like to thank my good friend Gillian along with Christ for helping me to discover the many ways we must apply good intentions and trust in all of our activities. I thank her for allowing me to write on her website about ethic and conduct.
Friday, December 24, 2010
Security in a Relationship
How many have incessantly been in contemplation about Security. The irony in that is we will not understand security until we have went within and discovered it for our selves internally. It does not matter who or what is in your surrounding; with self security you will assimilate and prosper in all circumstances. The solid foundation of evolving youself as a balnced entity will enable you to be unyeilding to harmfull and manipulative influences. Self love will initiate consistancy in your behaviors, aspirations and overall growth and development which enriches you mentally, physically and spiritually.
Please understand that if you inquest security, you are actually abandoning it; thus you attract abandonment and recieve little security in life and may feel forsaken. The security lays within you.
With only yourself, human abilities and only human aparatus; you go out and look for diamonds and gold. What is the chance of finding it? That is the same chance you have if you look for love. Clearly you do not have security if your out looking for diamonds and gold.
One other factor is the sense of understanding and disciplining your emotions. Healing from your past. Often many who do not hold a security allow their emotions to run their behaviors.
Self security will determine your level of self worth. Your self worth will affect your intentions, respect, considerations, honesty, behaviors, selflessness and actions you hold upon others. At times involving intention; I know many have experienced instant gratifications or spouse behaviors that then change in circumstances where their are no controls, such as financial needs, a dwelling, children and so on. This occurs when an individual has not attained a self security and improvisions on behaviors are constructed to hold on to their spouse. (security)
If we do not understand ourselves how do we know what we want for ourselves and especially a relationship?
I know many will inadvertantly compromise for the need of security.
Now here is a fun example: This delineates importance of knowing self physically, mentally and spiritually.
I thought I was a Bone in Ribeye. I never have endured a taste of myself without needs to make another happy; so before I became a solid entity my business was influenced by others. I run a bar and grill.
Now Corn on the cobb became a good side dish for the bone in ribeye, along with salt potatoes and a pale ale for a beverage. (hey; even in culinary there is relationships)
The bone in ribeye was seared and brushed with a smoked hickory marinade.
We do learn about ourselves as well concerning socializing but we do obstruct self enlightenemnt and clear direction without solid self introspection time attaining a security for ourselves.
Long story short. (the sides are attachemnts that come with relationships and even the path you are on concerning career, dwelling area, college etc..) A child I would not consider an attachemnt becuase it is always a beautifull grace and part of who you are.
Bone in Ribeye is starting to evolve and is realizing that they really are a Prime rib. Garlic Smashed Potatoes and sauted green beans would be divine with a prime rib. An earthy Merlot would be nice. Prime Rib also realizes soon that she like herself braised and not seared.
Now Prime Rib has to break down and rebuild; now on a detained pace due to the time and the attachemnts she aqcuired when she thought that Bone in Ribeye, along with all that came with it was ideal. Focusing becomes an issue becuase she had duties; the Bar and Grill situation it blocked her ability to dig within and spend time understanding herself as a solid entity with personal introspection. At times when we adhere many obligations we become inhibited from our ability to see our true divine path.
Impaired security institutes controls. Controls cause us to focus much energy holding on to what we believe or want to be a security; thus we lose focus of our true core being and what will balance in harmony with permanance.
You get the point.
I do want to discuss the affects of insecurity then pursuing a realtionship. There are signs that will determine if one exalts self security. Controls are one factor that evolve from jealousy, that evolves from insecurity.
Some Other factors; blackmail, possessiveness, erradic emotions and behaviors, accusations, communication barrriers, put downs physically, spiritually or emotionally, command and obey, restrictions.
Especially in an environment where you feel insulted, unaccepted, restricted or enforced in any way; do you feel more inclined to opt out or to bend a rule to recieve that freedom or space especially since it has been infractured it may seem as a relief or get-away. It becomes more of an urge maybe?
Do you think that controls can actually manifest abandonment or cheating?
Again the self worth and security is a key factor in determinig permanance. You must practice permanant self love and security first. Your sense of worth will affect your long term sense of worthyness to your spouse.
Sense of worthyness can also cause one to leave; after one has held negative intentions that will resonate guilt and guilt will affect their sense of worthyness. That will then cause urgency and one may desire to leave becuase they feel unworthy based of their intentions and self worth going into the relationship. They may also lack self understanding, self personal power and independence. They may feel confused and ready to get clarity and security on their own for once.
How much you worth and value yourself will impact you relationship along with the entirety of your self security.
Other elements to manifest secure relationships:
People are constantly evolving and changing to some degree, you must be comfortable with youself enought to be attuned with another and their growth and development. Be attuned with yours first on your own and that will create and honor, understanding and respect towards your spouses evolution.
Time in Union and Divine Communication. Always refining yourself becuase you instilled that practice first on your own will strengthen your relationship security.
Sharing a cause, passsion and faith together.
I hope the concise thread has given you enlightenement.
Love
Holly
I would like to along with God thank my inner light practitioner Beth Lynch for positively influencing my emotional healing and internal energy.
Please understand that if you inquest security, you are actually abandoning it; thus you attract abandonment and recieve little security in life and may feel forsaken. The security lays within you.
With only yourself, human abilities and only human aparatus; you go out and look for diamonds and gold. What is the chance of finding it? That is the same chance you have if you look for love. Clearly you do not have security if your out looking for diamonds and gold.
One other factor is the sense of understanding and disciplining your emotions. Healing from your past. Often many who do not hold a security allow their emotions to run their behaviors.
Self security will determine your level of self worth. Your self worth will affect your intentions, respect, considerations, honesty, behaviors, selflessness and actions you hold upon others. At times involving intention; I know many have experienced instant gratifications or spouse behaviors that then change in circumstances where their are no controls, such as financial needs, a dwelling, children and so on. This occurs when an individual has not attained a self security and improvisions on behaviors are constructed to hold on to their spouse. (security)
If we do not understand ourselves how do we know what we want for ourselves and especially a relationship?
I know many will inadvertantly compromise for the need of security.
Now here is a fun example: This delineates importance of knowing self physically, mentally and spiritually.
I thought I was a Bone in Ribeye. I never have endured a taste of myself without needs to make another happy; so before I became a solid entity my business was influenced by others. I run a bar and grill.
Now Corn on the cobb became a good side dish for the bone in ribeye, along with salt potatoes and a pale ale for a beverage. (hey; even in culinary there is relationships)
The bone in ribeye was seared and brushed with a smoked hickory marinade.
We do learn about ourselves as well concerning socializing but we do obstruct self enlightenemnt and clear direction without solid self introspection time attaining a security for ourselves.
Long story short. (the sides are attachemnts that come with relationships and even the path you are on concerning career, dwelling area, college etc..) A child I would not consider an attachemnt becuase it is always a beautifull grace and part of who you are.
Bone in Ribeye is starting to evolve and is realizing that they really are a Prime rib. Garlic Smashed Potatoes and sauted green beans would be divine with a prime rib. An earthy Merlot would be nice. Prime Rib also realizes soon that she like herself braised and not seared.
Now Prime Rib has to break down and rebuild; now on a detained pace due to the time and the attachemnts she aqcuired when she thought that Bone in Ribeye, along with all that came with it was ideal. Focusing becomes an issue becuase she had duties; the Bar and Grill situation it blocked her ability to dig within and spend time understanding herself as a solid entity with personal introspection. At times when we adhere many obligations we become inhibited from our ability to see our true divine path.
Impaired security institutes controls. Controls cause us to focus much energy holding on to what we believe or want to be a security; thus we lose focus of our true core being and what will balance in harmony with permanance.
You get the point.
I do want to discuss the affects of insecurity then pursuing a realtionship. There are signs that will determine if one exalts self security. Controls are one factor that evolve from jealousy, that evolves from insecurity.
Some Other factors; blackmail, possessiveness, erradic emotions and behaviors, accusations, communication barrriers, put downs physically, spiritually or emotionally, command and obey, restrictions.
Especially in an environment where you feel insulted, unaccepted, restricted or enforced in any way; do you feel more inclined to opt out or to bend a rule to recieve that freedom or space especially since it has been infractured it may seem as a relief or get-away. It becomes more of an urge maybe?
Do you think that controls can actually manifest abandonment or cheating?
Again the self worth and security is a key factor in determinig permanance. You must practice permanant self love and security first. Your sense of worth will affect your long term sense of worthyness to your spouse.
Sense of worthyness can also cause one to leave; after one has held negative intentions that will resonate guilt and guilt will affect their sense of worthyness. That will then cause urgency and one may desire to leave becuase they feel unworthy based of their intentions and self worth going into the relationship. They may also lack self understanding, self personal power and independence. They may feel confused and ready to get clarity and security on their own for once.
How much you worth and value yourself will impact you relationship along with the entirety of your self security.
Other elements to manifest secure relationships:
People are constantly evolving and changing to some degree, you must be comfortable with youself enought to be attuned with another and their growth and development. Be attuned with yours first on your own and that will create and honor, understanding and respect towards your spouses evolution.
Time in Union and Divine Communication. Always refining yourself becuase you instilled that practice first on your own will strengthen your relationship security.
Sharing a cause, passsion and faith together.
I hope the concise thread has given you enlightenement.
Love
Holly
I would like to along with God thank my inner light practitioner Beth Lynch for positively influencing my emotional healing and internal energy.
Thursday, December 23, 2010
The Often Judged Eating Disorders
First of all if you are one who has had to live alone for quite some years; I get you.Thats when we do not want to hurt others and want to get ourselves secure first and understand oursleves along with creating a balance and inner harmony. So we often endure pain to the bone alone to heal and understand it. If you are one to live with another but not feel accepted; I get you as well. Nothing worse than being around one that makes you feel lower in frequency with selfish demands on their behalf becuase they internally are really unhappy with themselves or need you for sense of control; but it blocks your personal space for self understanding and evolvment. Again do not take anothers objectivity concerning your actions as an attack. Often many go unaware. In social arrangemnts we must practice self honesty; if we cannot be honest to self; can we argue another then questioning us?
Number One; we are complexed beings and an emotional issue only gets more complex as it goes unrecognized. The solutions are quite to the point but as we evolve in a behavior that erradicates out mental and physical health; the more complex the issue becomes due to attachemnts we create concerning trumoiled areas in life that also then get impacted by the root causes unaddressed.
Case Study;
Case Study;
First influence of an eating disorder was from the many woman that the male parent dated. I will say its woman and some men of all ages that endure eating discorders in all forms to; too big, to muscular, thin etc. I cannot say I have experienced anorexia but I have dipped into the truth about bulimia for a few consecutive months in my life.
Issue; once a day at night, to give a high then a low to where a black could influence sleep when being alone in mid teen years away from any family. The lack of elctro and potassium levals was too much for my body to endure long hours 7 days a week. This could not continue; needs to attain grounding alone with no support would be infringed upon if continued any longer than the few months enduring the behavior. Clealry alone (physically) and feeling no love and support which created anguish, thus lack of sleep.
This closure led to a begining of a smoking addiction; "the abysmal issue was instilled and resonate self needed to ascend to actualize the pain and the need emotionally.
This closure led to a begining of a smoking addiction; "the abysmal issue was instilled and resonate self needed to ascend to actualize the pain and the need emotionally.
Faith and more group identification; college and faith groups. More time hanging out at MCC and community. Becoming conscious of thinking patterns that evoked urges of behavior. Attuning self with affirmations to bring in the energy not being recieved. Attuning self to open up to receiving by cleansing blockages and negative energies. "Tai Chi and healing meditations"
Again we all have reasons and causes on why we engage in these behaviors. The cause and triggers must be known and then understood. When we have a negative emotion; we clearly have a need that is not addressed. Thus we add a behavior but with an instant gratification and one we think we often can control becuase we feel no control on the emotions; we have not dealt with the emotion to order them.
The sad thing is; often as I have given counsel of these issues; people desire and like the control but they are being controled and its not the behavior directly, its the deep emotions behind it that triggers the behavior. It was an emotional response to influence a feeling thus an action to void the unwanted emotion and feeling attached to it.
It is also the sense of worth in many demeanors people experience that cause them to be conscious about eating and weight; body image to evoke these practices.
Wrestling, modeling, female false images, media etc.
There is absolutly no control becuase its an uncontrolled urge to repeat the behavior of control. Conscious can control influenced by the subconscious which is often passive to many; but the subconscious influences our conscious actions.
So one of the answers is to address what need was not met to cause the emotion.
Sense of acceptance (perfectionist, people pleasers) is another core issue. Compasrisons upon others and idealistic views of the Idol male and female image that is often not realistic.
Lack of acceptance can also occur by many rejections and abandonment issues. This can evolve from childhood and if the emotion is not understood and orderd it will continue to manifest the same negative results as the child gets older.
For example; I feel lonley. Well an eating disorder will only isolate you; so it creates more lonliness; thus more destructive behavior. You then depend on it and seek it as a solution to your lonliness.
The healthy way to assess lonliness is to ask yourself why you feel lonley and if you are percieving situations accuratly.
Remember: you may often percieve situations as you are left out or still feel alone becuase you are alone in your addiction, your addiction is not being supported in many environments of socializing. You may subconsciously be looking to connect with ones and be open about your addiction or behaviors.
Thus; we now know how its a circle; perception is off by the addiction or behavior, we feel alone in our addiction, we feel rejected or unattached, we then give this energy unto others, we then push others away, we then feel more lack of acceptance and rejection, we then feel deeper lonliness, we then run to the void and are alone in it and so on......................
If you are in fact alone; your not becuase many are in the same boat. Many live alone and are away from family or widowed. Many are enduring addictions of all kinds. So now we know we are not alone in the "boat". Others are enduring it.
If you are alive there is no possible way you do not have a place on this earth. Its not possible. If anything you can be one to inspire and support others who have experienced your pain. You can initiate support groups and engage in other support groups and meet like minded people with compassion.
Reaching out for help and Reaching out to others.
We also have to stay true to ourself; we at times cannot cookie cutter mold our image without cutting into healthy behavior with negative patterns of activity. Acceptance of yourself is the first step. If we continue to run from ourself (abandon) to chase what we think or what we percieve the ideal is to be based of uncontrolled emotions; we are going to beat ourselves around the bush in repeat negative cycles.
The best thing to do if it has resulted into a conscious image issue is to be rational and realistic.
I once did this: No TV or Mirror for one week! Really. I actually felt more inclined to socialize and get out becuase I was not dwelling on my appearance as it was in truth. No make up, no nothing in alteration becuase I am Holly Marie Colino. I am. I have to be me or I am rejecting myself!
Now its been years since I have worn any makeup. I used to be a mascara "wearer". No hair dye ever but I did make efforts concerning hair curly or really strait etc. Now I make efforts to heal and nurture my hair in its natural form. I take long bubble baths, lufah sponge, pomus stone, shave, soak, rinse, body gel, facial cleanser, conditioner, shampoo, filing, lotioning, shae butter, tweezing...yes lots of nurture.
Oh and yes of course I bring my bundles of kissies and huggies: my ooshie and orni babies. A puppy and tiger baby.
Honestly Just let it go, be free, be you, really it works!
Here is this one for example:
Ok, lets say you are insecure about your weight.
I actually was leaner looking with 130 pounds verse my current weight at 122! I lost alot of muscle mass from sitting in an office all day making sales. No resistance training. So do not go by a scale of any demeanor even a magazine image. I just turned muscle into fat by sitting in a ATT chair with no resistance training. lol
I modeld for Tampax at the Sharidan 4 points hotel (promo model).
In a fasion shoot:
Computer imaged (reduce thighs, hips increase bust etc.)
Airbrushing that can literally turn a tattoo into clear looking skin! WOW
Jelly boobies put into bras on thin girls with no breasts but do you know that the Victorias Secrete model has jellies in her bra and the bra has jelly in it? Do not forget.
False eyelashes, hair extensions, lip plumper, lighting.....
Typical poses all include: stick out butt, suck in tummy, stick out chest add a pair of heals..viola an image! Could you really stand and walk around like that all day?
Seriously even at Brockport Local Gym; I serviced a female fitness trainer ice and pillows at the Marriot becuase she had surgery in Rochester on her breasts and nose.
Key elelments in modeling: nose job , botox, and breast lifts and implants. Digital body construction. (thin waist, thigh etc)
So lets go back to the example. You are 140 and want to loose weight.
This is why its better to not be so meticulous with checking yourself all the time and being very controlling about your body weight influences.
you are 5 4 and want fit into a size 2.
If you set an ideal image and check within a day or two, maybe a week and see that your not there; what do you think this will cause?
Its when we set ourself up to fail (goal setting) we often give up and repeat old patterns. Set realistic and rational goals.
If you want to change; your intentions should be for good reasons.
Purposfull reasons. That is your motivation!
If you have experienced an eating disorder; then claiming your power over the disorder is a great motivation. Claiming your personal power!
Meditation, relaxing breathing excersises or art therapys should also be applied.
Meditation, relaxing breathing excersises or art therapys should also be applied.
Do not put yourself in a spot where you are programing thoughts to see results right away. Instant gratifications are also instant uncontrolled behaviors.
you know what your reactions may be so do not set yourself up.
In this case "Flarity" is 5' 4 and wants to fit into a size 2.
Thats better than counting pounds becuse she can greatly reduce her waist size with just 5 pounds and increase muscle mass concerning her overall weight composition, transitioning fat to muscle so loosing more fat than she realizes becuase weight on the scale does not determine your body composition.
Flarity should focus a healthy regime and weigh herself after a month at the earliest.
She should repeat the cycle of healthy mind, eating and excersise until she has consistantly created her regime as a healthy pattern consisitantly. (2 months) Then give herself a mental, physical and spiritual assessment.
As Flarity has not yet gotten the size 2 jeans to try; she realizes that she actually likes her body after the two months of working out. She is not even concerned with "numbers"
Does she fit in the size 2, well she doesnt care anymore so does it matter? But yeah she is smokin and all jeans sizes are different, so she just buys for what fits her body and disregards the numbers.
Much of it really is the reflection that comes from our perception of ourselves that is provoked by our thinking patterns and influences socialy and from our past.
Much of it really is the reflection that comes from our perception of ourselves that is provoked by our thinking patterns and influences socialy and from our past.
Perfect is only a perception and an illusion of what is to be perfect in our heads based of our ideals and how we have attained them.Balance is key. If you put energy into only one thing aiming for perfection, other areas fall behind. We can aim for excellence in all we do but mistakes are part of learning and astute experience. Physical perfection should no where be compared to any image in the media either.
How we feel and our overall hapiness of our current situation will also reflect our perceptions.
Some Mood boosters: social identification, team, challenge, education, jouranling, art, excersise, sports, Tai Chi, meditation, Faith...................................................
Hope this brief overview helps:)
Love
holly
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