Respect and Trust in Relationships

The truth and facts in reality along with awareness to construct preventative actions and divine self loving support will influence divine intention, trust, and preparedness for the future.



This thread relates to a heart mate partner; all relationships hold different demeanor's. Family for one is quite dynamical and multifactorial with many partners involved; this takes much complex and cooperative counsel...with structures.....and rules


With acceptance to a child in need, at times we end up alone even with family being a common denominator; this is your life. Why allow ones ill will to help self abuse and take advantage of you and your efforts to solidify your core of being? Support and being positive is what we can do but not abandoning self. At times we have to let go of certain relationships because if we involve ourself in them we may get pulled down; only so much support, then it's their will and self honesty.

Self Respect earns Respect;

I am writing this from my heart and empathy. It is so important to respect the worth of your spouse and their privacy. (If they have no self respect, do not get involved on that level) I have watched, observed and mediated many areas of distrust and turmoil with gossip upon a partners spouse. I have in my experience viewed such activity as logging a spouses activity and discussing it in public forums and other chat groups. I have often been approached to discuss actions of an others spouse. I have been a mediator in their turmoil out into the open and public. I have viewed the many validation techniques to play an image unto others to validate what one wants their relationship to be but is not in truth. That is why there is a need to create validations.



"Walk in with good intentions and the results may be blessed"



If for example; you speak to a friend(who may be short terms as they come and go) associate, public forum etc about your spouse without their consent and knowing of the issues and ask people to advice you about your spouse and release their personal business to predict outcomes.



Should they trust you? Are you deserving of their trust? Have you put faith and trust into yourself and spouse?

Ask yourself; If you cannot make your own Judgements about your relationship; are you really ready for one?

Have you really evolved to understand yourself?



I have viewed many chat forums and observed on going activity of spouse privacy being released all over the Internet and partners allowing strangers to judge their relationships without a testimony or respect to the spouse and their lack of knowing of the activity.



Both sides shall be present and able to give a full testimony on their issues as a union. Then a fair and logical Judgment can be made on both sides. Discernment concerning truthfulness is far more accurate in person; with both individuals present. Honesty and Confession and are the key measures to a resolution. Both came into the relationship with intentions and both made the choice.



In a union anything related to the union shall be done as a union.



Here is a few questions I gave a woman who held an 8 month post about her husband called: Cheating Husband Logger. She had complaints and here is how I handled her request of information to act upon;



"Joe" Are you settling? If no romance is there along with no trust; why are you in it still? Because you said you have not talked to your spouse; you are not clear about your accusations; that's why you are here. You now as described by your actions are creating anxiety, distrust, lack of confidence and faith in yourself and spouse. You are on the path to manifesting an ending.



"Joe" Do you think that after this past 8 months of flipping tarot cards and getting a strangers advice with no spouse approval has helped you?



Why dwell? Why dwell on anything instead of enduring the divine present and it's opportunities? Why set or evolve expectations? What happened to Integrity? Patience and Persevering in Love is very important. (Trust in the Flow) If we "demand" the answers or outcomes (controls) up front; what integrity do we have? That shows need, control, lack of faith and trust, lack of confidence in self and the spouse and selfishness. Those qualities manifest negative energy; pressure, anguish, distrust, apathy, tense; thus now actions; jumping to conclusions, blackmail, controlling, communication barriers and so on.



Others own their will and their will WILL on their own time and readiness. That is why we shall be enduring self love and inner peace first before we union with a partner. This will prevent possessiveness which can create many areas of turmoil I discussed already.



Now as I mention possessive and control; it reminds me of lust, obsession, and need. That is not love but do individuals who exalt these actions practice self love, balance and inner peace?




What you carry inside yourself often remains passive; so the energy you resonate may not be seen by the potential spouse but the weakness will attach to yours and it will manifest to turmoils. Heal and ground Self first so you can step into a relationship with a positive resonating energy and attract what you resonate; love inside as a solid being.



Exposure; telling all the truth and nothing but; not telling all in concern to information that does affect and influence a spouse is untruthfulness. Exposure of current self in truth and current life circumstances.



Exposure concerning romance, intimacy, emotions, feelings and so on shall be earned, respected, treasured and they should be experienced with mature levels of time and commitment first showing Faith, loyalty and Trust.



Going back to my post about Intention;



Did you plant Poison Ivy or Roses? What did you plan for your relationship to grow into?



Challenges do come with attending to a harvest.



Instant gratifications come and go as quick as they came in.



Intentions can be analytically broken down farther to reasons that attach to self and the situation that is surrounding the individual. Where were you at? Where you feeling lonely, lack of approval, low social identity, low esteem..etc.



Desperation's causes desperate measures. We know that ill willed can stoop low or be completely ignorant to their self and then unaware of their inadvertent lies and negative actions.



Weak position again transitions to the deceit, unfaithfulness, abuse, lies, usage, weakening each other and so on.



Spouses should understand caring disciplines as well concerning support and strength of a union together being influenced by each others will and ability to attain will power.



Here is an example of intention and spouse respect along with selflessness.



Jax wants to come over and cuddle. Jax, "I just met you last night." What have I done to be worth of your affection and intimacy? What worth and sense of self love do you have? Have I proven my trust and loyalty? Do you care that I do? Why or why don't you? My own self worth will affect the way I treat you and your worth will affect the way you treat me.



Here are some good questions before I conclude this thread.



DO I have faith and trust with focus and Patience to allow my path to unfold?



Am I clinging to the past and how can I come out of stagnation?



How can I heal from the past and learn from my past to expand my growth?



We all have values but were mine in a mature order before I went into the relationship?



We all have compassion but am I abusing it or have I been allowing mine to become abused?



Have I really grounded myself yet as a independent individual with balance, self love and inner peace?




The Bible is a great way to discern a divine union. This post breaks down areas in a relationship that are often abused and misunderstood in simple terms. The Ten commandments are a divine foundation for all our relationships.



Take care



Love

Holly

Why is Pain an Opportunity for Harmony?

"It only hurts till the pain goes away" SFC Mainville Unites States Army.


He is correct; it is your choice to hold on or to let go. How can we do this?

We do carry pains and that influences what we attract; so we can say in fairness that we have held pain and the pain was infringed because we held it. We deserved the obstruction to become aware of its existance within ourselves so we may release it for good.

People and Situations will always transend into your life and they will repeat until we accept and heal the emotional pain with higher frequency.

So now we can conclude that the people involved can be resonating internal negative frequency acquired from their own pain. Many inadvertantly  contravene you due to their own emotional pain with lower senses of awareness.

"situations create lessons that ignite our awareness and motivate us to inquest our higher self intelligence and resonance"


We must put intent of higher thinking and understanding to the "wounded" area and recognize that that area was weak and deserved the pain so it could evolve and attain fruitation. That emotional area was underdeveloped and was not working in ways to manifest  its maximum capacity to endure those divine sensations and feelings we desire. It is in our best interest to flow energy of compassion to others that influence our emotional stature. By sending them visions and messages of higher frequency along with compassion we can help heal the severance we endured from the part in the given "lesson" applied to us. Remain open, compassionate and forgiving. You will be able to turn the situation of severance into a way to heal the pain that was infringed upon your emotions by transending others higher frequency thoughts and actions. The person and the situation are the resources we can influence to heal ourselves; by shining light and positve frequency to them.

"we often persevere with pain concerning physical growth in many demeanors so we can achieve what?"

First we must understand where the pain resonates. We know that the physical heals itself but pain still resonates after the physical curative. Our Acceptance of responsibility and comprehension of the cause of pain is the first stage of healing. Pain is deserved. We deserve to feel pain because it helps us become aware; it is a protection tactic. We can become aware of the causes presence. Our own forces have created it and that is also why we deserve it.


What lesson is this pain trying to teach me? How will I benifit by enduring this and transending positive light into the heart of the situation? How can I carry this wisdom with grace to evolve my growth and influence my future endeavors with greater awarness and Enlightenment?


You will not be able to heal from pain if you avoid it and abandon the opportunity to accept it with grace and instill light into it. We are being informed of an area in ourselves that has not been open up in balance; the area of internal pain has already been in pain and maybe supressed. Each circumstance that provokes emotional pain is a leasson to facilitate our growth becuase there are areas in ourselves that we shall deserve to unfold so we may experience Love, Peace, Joy and Harmony throught all areas of our emotions and feelings.

Perception is important. How we perceive the situation that caused the pain. We cannot lie to ourselves either; we must be honest with ourselves in order to take responsibility for our involvement in the action and how we handled it as well. An emotional attachment will cause us to jump to conclusions and we often will percieve a situation wrong; we may take defense and that will cause us to create conflicts.


Life is not easy and we are meant to experience challenges; its how we come out of those challenges and how we handle them that will give us the gifts of strength. Even the circumstances all the way down to childhood; we are not alone in anything. There are people all over the world that experience many injustices in child hood; worse in many third world countries.


Our internal self creates our actions. Thought, feeling, emotion then action. An emotion changes our feelings. We experience emotion. Ex Depressed and then we feel sad. Feelings are more easily recognized; the emotion goes deep. The change in emotions alters our feelings. These elements affect our behaviors. If we carry them, they will influence our behavior and what we attract. Emotions and feelings tell us if we are happy; if not we know our current circumstance is not fulfilling our needs.


First stages of resonate action


First; can you really let it go without acceptance? Can you really accept without understanding?


If you do not understand why or what is wrong; can you really get it out of your head? Now we have the thoughts in our head to influence our feelings and emotions, thus actions. If we lie to ourselves; how can we see the causes of our emotional turmoil? Here is the Justice. Especially in terms of situations that repeat themselves in our lives; we must stop and assess out internal self. If a situation is repeated; we must have helped create it. Here is where we must take accountability in the results we have received. Understand what emotion is causing us to involve our self into these circumstances. Not until we understand and accept our responsibility can we get the thoughts out of our head. The emotion misunderstood will evoke the thoughts that cause the emotion until we take accountability and control of our will.


We now undestand importance and how we can become aware. Here is an example of emotional awareness and the processess and issues that are cause by voiding our emotions.


Case Study: 24 year old John.


John has not lived alone but has been avoiding it. John was in relationships since high school. John moved out of his mothers after high school and pursued another relationship to then marry a woman. She left him. John during this time abandoned his dreams and his own grounding. He did not follow his career goals and personal aspirations. Neither did his spouse. Both have not lived alone to understand themselves. They abandoned themselves; thus they have abandoning relationships.


Because of this situation that John helped create John is: untrusting, in apathy, lacks his male identity, personal power, behind financially, feels low self esteem, thinks he was not good enough and overall has lost much time to evolve himself and have a clear direction. John has many problems with indecision because he never understood himself alone as a whole being first, John has been clouded with relationships before he ever became independent.


Because John is unaware of his inputs and emotional issues that helped create his marriage issue; he lacks trust and pushes others away. He assumes all will do the same. No, not all will do the same but he has to recognize that he needs to make better choices and get grounded alone as a man first. John was emotionally dependent. When we are dependent in any way; we often seek out anything for instant gratification; false securities.


John has the emotion; Depressed and has feelings of sadness and loneliness.
The cause of this sadness is abandoning relationship partners. First question; why are people abandoning me? Am I abandoning myself? I feel this emotion on my own fully now with no voids or coddling.


If one abandons themselves we know they abandon others. If you abandon yourself, people will be affected by your own self abandonment. Do you want to feel lonely and sad? I think not. We recognized how John attracted more abandonment. Let’s go deeper into the emotion. The emotion that lay deep within.


Depressed goes further. John never felt approved by his father. John felt rejection.


So because John avoided these feelings and never understood why his father gave him little attention and approval; John evolved negative coping strategies and avoided male pursuits of interest due to his emotional dependency on woman. Once the emotion goes unresolved from childhood there is a world of it out there to attract in male and female relationships. There is a world of the same issues for one to attract created false security and evolving more emotional issues due to the opposite sexes using in different mannerisms to feed the needs and insecurities.


If one does not approve of themselves; they will stay in a relationship with you for a need of validation. They will not approve but avoid what they dislike to keep you for a control. If one does not approve of themselves you will not make them happy and they will not give you sense of approval.


So this current issue has evolved from his childhood and John has become a people pleaser. Because John felt rejection from his father he feared rejections in the future. This causes John to fear being alone and to put up desperate measures to please woman. When a boy feels rejection or receives any type of abuse and neglect from a father; he will steer towards woman for approval.

Now this causes issues for John because he has more self abandonment concerning his male identity. Now John is developing feelings of low male worth and purpose.  John has also become a victim of controls concerning relationships; his esteem has also made him controlling in relationships as well. His trust issues and his people pleasing issues cause him to get hurt and abandoned easily. John has many bouts of meaningless relationships because he has not stopped to find meaning in himself. Overall; John deserves acceptance and that’s what caused the issue; lack of acceptance. John is a man and deserves to have male acceptance.

John is now 26 and has recognized his emotion and has recognized what caused it. His needs were not met at home concerning acceptance. John’s talents and abilities have gone unrecognized.  John has decided to join the US ARMY.


John has made many sacrifices; he did not pursue a relationship, he spent much time alone in contemplation to assess his emotions and feelings. John remained sober and started to balance his activities. John spent much time alone to seek within himself because he realized that inside him is where the answers lay. John practiced self love and gave himself introspective time. John also begun to learn more about himself and realized how to be content and get rid of feelings of boredom. John realized he held all that he needed inside and learned how to apply himself productively to positively impact himself and those around him.

John has received male identity, male camaraderie, recognition, promotion, high rank, and honor and emotionally John has acceptance. John feels empowered, appreciated, respected and he feels like a man. John is surrounded by loyal, sacrificing and worth individuals. John worth’s himself from his sacrifices and loyalty to his endeavor. John now does not engage in relationships easily. John is more careful and cautious. John knows he is important and he is accepted; he no longer seeks unhealthy relationships for approval with desperate acts to gain instant gratification or to feed selfish desires of another. John is carrying a positive, strong, empowering energy. John will attract like people. John’s social circle has changed for the better. John understands why his father did not give him approval; John faced it and forgave so he could move on with no emotional grudges. John has recognized that he does not deserve to be the victim from another ill will to help themselves and love themselves. John loves himself. John got grounded alone and feels content and practices self love;  so now he can attract love because he carries it inside.


 

Our sacrifices become our greatest achievements and personal power. You must seek the truth and seek it to its core. To absorb all of it; you must go in it with personal courage and seek it with your entire being. That is how we acclaim enlightenment. That is the only way we can make a fair judgments with Justice.

On a lighter note: One other discussion to ignite your thinking…………..


When it comes to our psyche; I have sacrificed myself in many areas of risk to seek farther into the truths of our mysterious nature and society turmoil. The real sacrifice is; you  exalting personal courage consistantly healing all of the emotions; Feeling them through to the bone when you are alone.

It has to be your will and your will as the only determining factor. A comfort or a void substance will only block you from feeling it to its true depths. How can you be sensual or experience it if you run from it? Sensuality can actually become heightened after you have sacrificed feeling  the pain in personal courage and persevering long term. Ask yourself; what is sensuality? If you want to relate to the senses, you must first relate to how we endure sensation. Empathy is a powerful practice that resonates passion. Passion is a strength energy that resonates from our higher self's awareness of our true hearts desires. Passion is instilled in our  chakras, it flows with every pulse and it then resonates throughout your entire body. What would sensual experiences be like if we endure the depths of the physical, mental and spiritual?


Honor to my first teachers; Jesus Christ and the highest power God. The most sovereign of Sacrifice and Selflessness devoting with forgiveness, grace and healing power. 

God Bless

Love

Holly

I want to thank my good friend Christine for assisting me on my path to discover Jesus and the grace of God ever since I was a little girl.